I must admit that by the peak of that sitcom, I was still on my twenties and with millions of dreams about the future floating in my mind. I was married, with a good job and Sunday cheap morning brunches with my mother. What could go wrong?
Almost 10 years later, I'm divorced, with an unstable job and lavish meals with my friends in one of the most expensive cities in the world. I have nothing but doubts about the future floating in my mind and debts floating in my bank account. I don't have savings and all my wages go to clothes, meals, night-outs and shoes. It's all about shoes.
I could be the perfect character for that sitcom. However, despite living day by day, jumping from one loan to another to get another pair of outrageously expensive shoes or to pay off my studies with loose coins, I feel tremendously hot now.
A single woman over 30 can get the perfect job - even if it's unstable. The experience thirty-somethings have is valuable and very well-paid. We have 10 years struggling with doomed relationships, bad jobs, the endless effort to understand why he didn't call, another endless competition against other women dressed better or with the "it" new pair of shoes. God, we have experience!
Now our lives are full of parties, "it" events, fashion, expensive shoes and Starbucks. The new 20's? Never! We act better; we think better, we dress better. We aren't shy anymore, we can approach that cute twenty-something guy and tell him he is hot! We have a completely different posture about relationships. Of course, being women, we still suffer about them, but now it's a little bit more of "who cares?" rather than "without him, I"m nothing'.
Sex is not painful anymore - in terms of matters of the heart. It can be really fun and with safety tools and the good guy, it could be a good source of relief. Isn't it great?
Times are a-changing. 20 years ago you hit your deadline by 25. Nowadays, I read someone saying that by the time you reach 35 you have to "kiss the rock-chick good-bye". And maybe that's what our nature will prompt us to do. In the meantime, I'm kissing a lot, having fun and still having doubts about my future - especially my financial future. I'm working hard anyway, there's this point in between when you need to be ready to hit your deadline.
With all this experience, the only thing that worries me is my reluctance to save money. However, I am realizing that all that glitters in your early 30s, won't be that bright later. Therefore, I'll be ready for the next stage in my life.
