Do you consider yourself a great catch? Do people tell you this and then ask why you haven't married yet? Reaching 40 and being single can be tough for a woman. Men have it a little easier since they do not have a ticking clock that will prevent them from having children. Yet, finding someone to fit your needs and your wants is not very easy and the way I see it is if I have waited this long without finding someone special enough I don't see the point in settling. I am too good for that.
I think since I don't settle for a less than perfect or at least less than what I want in a man that I have remained single. I do require a man that works hard and is intelligent. I want the man to be the man of the family and take care of the bills without concerning me about any of it. I don't want to have to worry about money ever. I want the man to take care of that part. If the man is willing to help me out rather than expect me to do everything then it has a chance to work. There must be respect, trust, and love and without these three elements it could never work.
There have been men that I have dated but they didn't meet my expectations. I am sure I didn't meet theirs either. I tend to have adjusted to living alone for so long that I don't like it when someone comes into my life and tells me what me to do. It is hard to adjust to living with someone and hard to bend to their ways.
Another thought of why I am still single even though others say I am a good catch is the fact that I may be afraid of commitment too. I don't know if I am going to make a big mistake marrying the wrong person. In my family we have never had a divorce and I would hate to be the first one. I would also hate to find someone after marriage that is tempting to me and I end up becoming weak and have an affair. That concerns me greatly especially since so much of it seems to be going around.
Maybe one day I will get married. My uncle got married for the first time in his late 50's to a woman around his age. They never had children but they were there for each other. If you happen to be someone in their early 40's and not married you will know what I am talking about. It is hard to find someone that meets your expectations and even harder to be able to live with them.
