I remember a famous guy in the self-improvement field said, "Imagine saying to a parent, something along the lines of 'How long do you give your average baby to walk?'"
As funny as it sounds, it's a great way of explaining why you need to practice, practice and practice! You don't tell your baby to move on to something different if he can't walk straight away. "Oh he's fallen over 12 times now. I guess walking is just not for you. I guess he wasn't born to be a walker."
Now look at us.
We can walk. We can run. We can talk. We can ride bicycles and drive cars. Who would have thought that little baby would one day be driving people around in a car or flying a plane?
We consider a lot of things as failure but it's just a part of the process.
The inventor of the light bulb, Thomas Edison, once said, "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work."
The most famous basketball player in history, Michael Jordan once said, "I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed."
These are just two examples. There are hundreds more.
Failure is feedback.
You learn consciously and unconsciously after "screwing up". Trust yourself.
Did a girl just turn her back when you tried to chat her up? Oh my god, you are a failure. You should never ever talk to any women ever again!
Even if you get slapped or whatever, it's fine. It's part of the learning process.
Many guys go out "sarging" learning to get good with women. It is a skill. It's social dynamics. It's learning how to improve your communication.
One of the popular quotes from one of the pick-up guys is "The first 2000 approaches don't count".
Have fun failing. Give it time and see the reactions from others when you start hitting successes. If you're big enough to lose then you're big enough to win.
