People are starting to get more paranoid as each year goes by. Lets face it society is getting worse and people are becoming more unfaithful to their loved ones. It's not uncommon to have a bachelor or bachelorette party before marriage. What goes on there is worse than it was back then…People used to say that it is more common for a man to be more paranoid than a woman but I doubt that is the case anymore. I fear that it has become the other way around. Just the other day my friend messaged me to tell me that she has been reading her husbands emails for 3 years straight because of her low self-esteem!
I use to be a paranoid person as well but, learned ways to get around it. Think to yourself why am I paranoid? In an episode of Sex in the City Carrie finds the perfect guy and realizes there is nothing wrong with him. In return it disturbs her greatly and she starts searching for trouble. She finally comes to the conclusion that we are all used to drama and need drama in our lives to survive or feel better about ones self. Was there anything wrong with your relationship before you got paranoid or did you just think “Wow, this is too good to be true? There is something sketchy about this picture…” Think of all the reasons you are paranoid. Write them down. Now write down all the good things in your life or about your partner. Ask yourself is there a point to all this? Am I just used to arguing or finding trouble that I can't stop? Is it a habit?
Let me tell you that you are wasting time if you having found anything yet…Stop! First off you should work out as much as possible. Take a walk on a near by trail in your city or go to a gym. I myself found out that a cheap stair-stepper does the job. Once you start feeling good about yourself you will feel good with the person you are dating. Guys don't like when women aren't confident. So get out of the house it might just be that your paranoia and worrying comes from sheer boredom.
Second thing is to calm yourself (which is easier said than done). To do that you can look at a fish tank, pet an animal, listen to calming music, take a nap or read a non-disturbing book. Do some yoga. Another way of calming yourself is to take St. Johns Wart vitamins. DO NOT EAT SWEETS! Instead go for berries, almonds (or any time of nuts), avocados and oranges. All of these help relieve stress.
Thirdly stop asking him if he thinks a girl is hot. If he does he does…It's not like he is going to go ask that girl out or do anything with her. There will always be someone more attractive than you. It's your personality that he's dating you for so show it and show it well! As I said to my friend “be the person that he started dating you for” meaning don't lose yourself to worrying. If you are tired all the time drink some green tea or take green tea vitamins as well. They give you energy. And seriously go hang out with your friends! Have a good time and get those paranoid worries out of your mind. If you don't it only pushes people further away.
Thanks for listening!!! I will have some more tips about this and other things coming up
