Have you ever wondered how a certain person got that self esteem you admire so much? Why she carries herself with so much confidence? How does she do it?
Well, unfortunately we live in an era where we think beauty is looking like an anorexic run way model, being a millionaire and wearing designer clothes or driving the latest and most expensive car.
But think about that for a minute. If you had that, would it change the way you feel about yourself?
You might be tempted to say “yes”…however it's not true.
You could have everything your heart desires, but if you don't love yourself first, there's absolutely nothing that could give you that self worth.
Self worth is a concept we all need to work on some time in our lives.
We live in a society. We are not eremites, therefore at a time or another in our lives we might have come in contact with someone who hurt us, and hurt our self esteem more than we give it credit for.
It could've been done by a parent, at school, by a friend, a relative, etc.
It really doesn't matter who did it. What matters is what you are willing to do to change how you feel about yourself and prove to everyone how wrong they were about you.
How To Do It
Start by doing a self examination of yourself.
What is it about yourself that you hate more? Why? Is this something you can change? And the answer to this is YES. No matter what it is you can change it.
You might be thinking I'm crazy if I think that you can change your nose for i.e. you might not be able to change it physically, but you are able to change how you perceive it and how you think of it.
In order to change anything about yourself you need to identify it.
Once you have done this, think of how you have affected your own life by thinking the way you have.
No one likes to be miserable. But no one has the power to change that in our life, but you. No one can do that for you, except you.
Those people you admire for their self esteem is because they project that.
You can be admired too. Once you love yourself and start projecting that. However if you continue down the path of feeling sorry for yourself, that's exactly what you will project.
If you are fat, skinny, big nose, little nose, big feet, long hair, short hair, having financial difficulties, driving a beat up car, etc …who cares.
Love yourself for what you are. Identify your qualities instead of your flaws. Concentrate on those and making them available to everyone instead of showing them your insecurities.
Think Positive
Its amazing how our way of thinking can change who we are and what we become.
We all have had a time in our lives when we think there's no way out.
We feel trapped and we start thinking and asking “why me”? Change that question as to, “what can I learn from this”, “How can I get out of this”.
Our mind is an incredible creative source. We all have it. Even if you are feeling so down and think you are not capable of doing anything for yourself, the minute you change that thought and get up and do it, your life will change.
We attract the negative things we think. If we think we are worthless, useless, ugly, have no personality and basically good for nothing; this is what most likely we will be. As you continue to think like this, you are caving a deeper and deeper hole that will later will make it almost impossible to crawl out of.
However if you start changing the way you think about yourself, when you start believing that you are capable, when you set yourself goals and gradually start to achieve them, your self esteem grows. And you realize the sky is the limit. And that the only person who had been limiting you, was yourself.
Setting Goals
It sounds so professional and almost impossible to do, doesn't it?
Well it's easier than you think.
After you have started thinking positive about yourself, loving what you hated more about yourself, start establishing short term and achievable goals. Start small, but positive. As you start achieving them, you will realize your strength within, and will start setting higher goals that will later take you where you want to go.
So start today. Start thinking positive. Change the way you look at yourself, and you will see how your life starts changing for good. Just give it a try. You have nothing to loose.
