Anger is a healthy emotion, an emotion that every person feels. So what is anger anyway? Anger as I said is an emotion, it is neither a wrong or a right feeling. Anger only becomes a problem for people when it is repressed or is associated with aggression which by the way is a behavioral problem. Unresolved anger can lead to serious physical and mental health problems, such as heart disease, stroke, depression and anxiety.
So why do we get angry? Why do we need to get angry? First of all when we get angry, basically your trying to tell your self something is wrong. In other words anger is a second emotion alerting you that another emotion is in effect, fear, sadness, frustration. Anger is trying to keep us from harm, it is the response you produce that can help or hurt the real problem, the primary emotion. Understanding the reason why you are angry will help you to solve your anger in an appropriate and healthy manner.
Where does anger come from? It comes from inside you; it is a natural response to dissatisfaction with something with in your environment. Anger can be brought on by a present situation or can build up over time. Letting anger build up or stew over time is called "suppressed anger." People who normally suppress anger are often very destructive, meaning when something triggers the anger about a past event; the response is often over reacted, or aimed towards someone who originally had nothing to do with the past event. Suppressing anger can often lead to depression, violence, or obsession; That is why dealing with your anger in a healthy manner is so important, and also it will help us control our anger from being directed at the wrong people.
Because anger is a healthy emotion and is only wrong when the behavioral reaction associated is inappropriate, this emotion can be turned into a good emotion. Healthy anger can teach us to problem solve instead of blame; it teaches us control and ultimately helps us to find the real root of the problem and solve it appropriately.
Here are some tips for some emotional release of anger:
- First Take a deep breath Breathe in through your nose for five seconds and out through your mouth for five seconds. Repeat until you feel calm.
- If you are angry with someone else try writing them a letter, write it as messy and mean as you want. Get your anger out in words, when you're done tear it up, burn it or dispose in a manner where it can not be found. This exercise really helps.
- Talking with someone who is not in any way associated to your anger, talk to them, release your frustration. The person whether a friend, family member, or some one else, they will listen so talk let it out.
- Perhaps you would rather work out your anger with some physical action, try lifting weights, hitting a punching bag, going for a run or bike ride, jump on your kids trampoline. There are lots of ways to sweat out the anger, see if you can find ways to let it out…
A few more tips:
- Punch a pillow
- Scream in the car
- Go for a nature walk, kick rocks, curse at trees, etc.
- Dance
- Twist a towel
- Beat a rug out side
- Relax….Breathe…Let it out…
Remember we all get angry it how we respond to anger that makes getting angry seem so wrong. If we all let our anger out in a healthy manner once in a while our normal everyday responses to anger will be controlled and save some unwanted grief. So relax, take a breath and sometimes let it out.
