Do not hang on to ghosts! What do I mean by that?
We all have certain times, in our lives, where we are
involved in something, tangible or intangible, when
we just refuse to let it go. Whatever it is, be it a dream
lost for the moment, a supposedly, permanent relationship,
a love affair, a friend turned non-friend, or anything else.
Things we deem so valuable, that we continue to hold on,
until it becomes, so all consuming, to the point of distraction.
We refuse to see that we are doing ourselves, more harm
than good.
A toxic friend perhaps, who delights in taking away any
Joy, that you might be experiencing, over whatever, turning
your good day into a gloomy one. They are so selfish, because
it is all about them, and when you hear their voice on the
telephone, you know that when the conversation has ended,
you will be much less happy, than when you picked up the
phone.
Make the decision to free yourself of such people, they should
be called “vampires”, because they want to sap you of your
emotional happiness. They are miserable most times, and
their mission, and they have accepted it, is to create misery,
wherever they can, if you choose to participate, then you will
be the receptacle of their outpouring of grief. Cut the cord,
stop chasing ghosts, hoping that this individual will change,
and suddenly, become the person you wish they could be. It is
not going to happen.
The same applies to lovers, if you are always arguing over
everything, there is some underlining problem, that needs to be
resolved, there has to be discussion and resolution. If you can't
work it out, you need to stop chasing ghosts. This may not be
the person, you want to send your life with, in the future. End
it, face reality, and move on. There will be someone else, who
will be more compatible. Stop chasing ghosts, thinking that if
you just hold on, he or she will change and everything will be
better, and less cantankerous, not going to happen.
For your peace of mind, and serenity, the best thing to do, is
to move on down the road, lighten your burden, it will give
you clearer air to breathe, you will be able to focus and be
more productive, when these ghosts are turned out to pasture.
Let them find other attics to dwell in, life is too short, ghosts
will always be who they are, and your life is just that, your life,
take charge and be a happier person, free of people, places and
things, that weigh you down and curtail your growth and
happiness. Let go of illusions, and things that are not good for
you, or your well being.
