Negative people can drain the energy and life out of you, if you let it. I know I have had my experience, well bad experience with dealing with negative friends and co-workers. It had gotten so bad for me, it rubbed off me and I was in a bad mood everday. For them they didn't mind, because it was something for them to talk about. Isn't it weird how we all like to talk about bad and negative things or issues, but when it comes to positive situations, we seemed to get a cramp in our heads. We can't quite grasp it. It does not feel good to the soul. Society has made it to the point where we celebrate evil and bad doing than grasp a positive and good situation.
When you surround yourself with negative and toxic people you miss out on life. You seem to not go after your own goals. You get to the point where you even start to get jealous of other people's success. You don't even realize that these people worked from the bottom and work their way to the top. Some took years to get where their at. At the same time when you get in your group of friends or co-workers, the complaining and hating starts. When I found myself in these situations, after awhile it started bothering my spirit and conscience. I did not like who I became. Majority of the time I did not have any reason to talk negatively, I just talked to fit in the crowd. I know sad, huh.
Usually, when you make the decision to change your ways, it is a hard process. Believe me you are not going to have a lot of cheerleaders and supporters, even family. If you do, that's great, but in most cases you will not. I noticed in my own life and experience when I started talking about my goals and dreams and living my life differently and cutting a lot of things out of my life, people would look at me like I was crazy. They wanted me to stay the same and of course they would make fun of me or tell me I was crazy and wasting my time. My feelings were hurt and until this day I'm still going through the process and I still have my ups and downs.
Changing your enviroment is not easy, but can be done. One thing I've always heard is that you can't tell people about your dreams because they will find a way to cut you down in a negative way. When people that are negative see another individual take action with their lives, they can get mean and hateful. This even happens when that particular individual has not even done anything yet and only talked about succeeding. Talking positively at times can make a negative person upset. Sometimes you have to take real action and start weeding out these type of people.
Here are a few tips to start winging out those negative and toxic people out of your life:
- Stop talking so much. Just start talking less about your goals and dreams, unless asked about.
- Start spending less time with certain negative people. You can still be nice, but if you were spending 90% of the time with these people, knock it down to more less than 50% of the time.
- Don't respond to their negative comments. Change the subject if you have to.
- Surround yourself with new and more positive people.
