All the deepest darkest pain that is in your past or present are things that make us hurt. They are the things we don"t like to talk about except for to those we confide in. The way people have done us, the way we were treated as a kid. The cold confusion which it has caused, the way it hurts and at times can crush us. But we're still alive? See, even if forgiveness doesn't seem like a choice, we can face what has become of it all, we can look at it in the eye. We can still find peace, we can't change the past. We can only attempt to change our tomorrows and the life ahead. If we were not to face up to things, we'd be full of hatred. To be full of this hatred would only mean that you couldn't move past these demons that seem to haunt and taunt our very souls. Life is precious, as much as things can hurt.
Although the past still has its grounds in your mind or somewhere in the very back of your mind its ok to feel hatred at times. But don't dwell on those who have hurt you in the deepest ways possible. Live and be you and change those feelings and make it into something good. Look at yourself and know that you have survived something tragic. It's hard to forget and my God it is hard to forgive, but to live; that's something different. Love who you are not who you were. Believe that things can change even if it hurts. Know you can be better than you're demons and also, "if there's hope, there's a way" a quote from a survivor of the Holocaust. Don't ever hold back because you think you can't take it, ride it....life hurts sometimes...but hey who said it'd be easy? Love yourself and your family. Stay close to your friends and closer to your enemies. Know this; the only thing that changes is CHANGE.
If we didn't have change, even though it can be scary, things would just be the same old thing. We wouldn't learn anything we wouldn't know anything different....it'd suck. Life can hurt; trust me it can hurt like hell. But its only over if you make the call, you'll never achieve anything for as long as you say you won't. A feeling starts with a thought and ends with an action. Therefore, if you think you're a failure all the time, you will soon feel like one then in the end you'll fulfill just that….tell yourself positive things, write a gratitude list. Get humbled, have self acceptance. Learn patience, if you are doing the right things, all others will fall into place. Mind over Matter. One day at a time; just for today. Live, love, laugh…..don't ever, ever, ever, give up. Know this; you are here for a reason, you have VALUE. Look in the mirror, and be thankful. God bless.