Here I sit writing advice on how a real person develops little strategies to overcome the challenges that life throws our way on a day to day basis.
Do you wonder what my qualifications are, or what gives me the right to be able to advise others? That's a question I can answer for you. You see, it's really quite simple. I am the real live person, and I am only writing about my own life experience, not anyone else's, not copying from a textbook, however I will refer to things I have learned and found along the way that have helped me, when indicated.
I am the real life guinea pig, so you can rest assured that any advice I have given, I have used myself and developed an opinion as to whether or not it works. What doesn't work is not published here. That will be another story in itself, there are too many strategies that don't work to publish here, as I would be writing all day! These are things I have read about, thought about, and gotten advice about, and put into practice in my own life. I will share them with you hoping that one person gets the advice they need, and is able to make life better. I learned this from living, and taking the advice of people who have lived for a very long time, some of them outliving their children and friends.
The first peek at what I have to share is this: if nothing more, get rid of the attitude! What attitude you ask? THE attitude…whatever it might be. The “I will never” or the “I just can't” or the “it won't work for me”. If you think that way, it's true! Develop a new attitude, an “I can” or “it's gonna work” attitude. Get a NEW ATTITUDE! I don't care if nothing in your life has ever worked before and you are positive that nothing ever will, GET RID of that attitude, because with it, you ensure that nothing good will ever happen to you, and you draw all bad things. This is common sense folks…have you ever seen someone with that kind of attitude succeed at anything? Of course not, so how could that work for you? It can't! All I want to hear from you now is “I can, I will, I'm worth it”. Those three phrases should work for now, as I realize you are new at this.
Now to move on to your new attitude. Focus on something you want. Whether it be a family, money, a job, a home….keep that in your mind, and develop in your mind just when you expect to receive this. When I lived in a trailer park, I wanted a house, so badly that I could see this house in my dreams. Unfortunately, I sabotaged that dream by putting a date on it. Do you believe that I put a date on something that I could have possibly had right then? I didn't know any better….I thought, I will have a house in ten years. I kept that thought in the back of my mind, and as things didn't get any better, as a matter of fact they got a lot worse, the thought was still there, deep in the back of my mind. Ten years. I could kick myself for every putting that thought there, because although, against all odds, I DID indeed have a house of my very own in ten years, I now believe that I could have had the house much earlier if I hadn't put a date of my expectation into the thought. Things in my life fell in place in exactly ten years that materialized that house almost as if by magic. Which leads me to my next thought…
Positive thinking. I know what you're thinking now….that I'm some hippie new age fruity guru that is going to throw you a barrage of psychobabble mixed with religious innuendo. You're completely wrong.
Positive thinking is science, pure and simple. Like attracts like. Don't believe me? Go sit in a bar for a month, same bar, same time of evening. Actively participate, learn the names and faces and just nurse your drink and watch. Notice all the fun loving and happy friendly people, the genuine ones that would give you the shirt off their back. Notice the dark ones brooding over their beer, not talking, often getting into fights or disagreements, the ones who seem to want to be left alone. Those with the sour, sad, angry look on their face. When a new person enters the bar…read them by “type” and see where they sit. Watch the course of the evening and see how they seem to draw to the type that you “marked” them for as they entered. It doesn't amaze me that those happy, smiling, laughing people draw more attention. They probably don't even know each other, but they instinctively knew their “type” as they entered the establishment. Learn to read people. Misery loves company, and it isn't hard to attract the wrong element if you are in the corner brooding over a drink.
