Twenty and thirty years ago most of us were still teaching our children “Sticks and Stones can break our bones but words will never hurt us,” as we were taught by our parents, while those children decided they would make others pay for their “butt hurt” feelings, as a friend of mine puts it. Now the whole world is feeling their violated and raped mentality!
It didn’t take much for these children now grown in years, but not mentality wisdom, to be offended. Anything that didn’t go their way, anything they didn’t receive that they believed they were “entitled to,” or any mistreatment they perceived they received whether real or imaginary they set out to rectify no matter the cost as long as they get what they think they want. Sadly enough many never live happy lives because they really don’t know what they want out of life, once they obtain what they thought they wanted they find no happiness. Yet everyone else suffers and pays for their “expressing themselves.”
Our grandparents were largely to blame for a great deal of this just as we are for allowing it to continue to worsen! We know our children are more intelligent with each generation but intelligence alone does not make a great and happy life! We the older people have years of actual experience in a great many things that the young people can not comprehend! I say we because if your family is anything like mine it’s a broken up mess. One or more parent an alcoholic or drug addict living in different places if not different states all together, sisters and/or brothers alcoholics and/or drug abusers, thieves, liars, etc. and while they chose the path they are now on we allow excuses for these bad choice behaviors to continue with their children and so on. Where will it all end? And if you are one of those parents who say “not my children,” or “it’ll never happen in this family,” you are wrong! Look again and look closely at your children and grandchildren. What are they saying? What kind of friends do they “hang” with? Just where do they “hang” and what are they doing while “hanging?” What style of clothes do they wear today? When speaking to an adult do they speak with respect? Do they speak to one another respectfully? Do you as a parent or grandparent take the time to communicate with them? Not lecture them but really communicate with them! Listen to them and their logical sounding reasoning then discuss the pros and cons of things. Do you even know the families of the friends your children/grandchildren “hang” with? I’m not talking about how clean or dirty their house or car might be; you should never judge a book by its cover! I’m talking about what kind of people they are inside! And do they spend time with their children or grandchildren? Or are they the “I’m busy right now I’ll do it later type?” Do you ever listen to your children’s friends talk? Are they always referring to being home alone or having a babysitter? If so does your child spend a great deal of time in a friend’s house where there is no real adult supervision? If so you’d better ask yourself if this is proper and consider whether you would want other children in your home while you are out. It would be wise to contact the parent(s) and get to know them and find out if they in fact even knew your child had been there.
Most parents are wrongfully trained to believe that their children are little saints and can do no wrong. Their poor little darlings are led by the nose on their faces by other hoodlums in the neighborhood. If you are one of those then you are teaching your child he/she is in control of your home and the decisions made in it. You are teaching your child he/she can do anything wrong and get away with it. No child is the innocent little saint everyone wishes they were! How can they be? Let’s look at a Childs life. After birth a child is completely dependant upon the adult taking care of them. They cry and we fix the problem. Children begin crawling then walking and instead of teaching the child not to touch we teach ourselves to pick up everything in the Childs path which is everything from the ground to approximately two to three feet high. Now we no longer teach our children not to touch so as they get older or go to other peoples houses and the children not only touch but breaks items the parent(s) blame the other people for leaving things where children can reach them and is to cheesy to even offer to pay for the item their untaught child broke. This is either because as children they didn’t like being properly taught and felt they were being “abused” or like so many lazy parents out there that they agreed to it so they could spend more time for themselves. Either way children of today’s society literally pick up and examine just about anything anywhere they want to believing they have the right to do so and if no one saw them break it then they didn’t do it and unless someone saw them do it you can’t prove it. When parents argue this point to the person who’s item had been broken they teach their children the “prove it syndrome” which gives them liberties to do even worse things as they get older. As the children get older they believe everything belongs to them and that they don’t have to share because children are no longer taught to share. Parents that felt that by having to share as children were being “abused” buy toys specifically for each child and instead of teaching them to share they teach selfishness resulting in the “me, myself and I syndrome.” Now after teaching the children all of these bad things the children start school, but now it’s mandatory that children begin school at the earliest time possible which is as soon as the child is out of diapers which would be two years old if society has their way.
