We may ask why! But we must have to remember that nobody is perfect in this world and that all of us are telling lies. Telling lies is already part of our system and we seldom keep away from doing so.
By the way, will you consider telling “white lies” a mistake? A sin? For me, no matter what your reasons are, as long as you are telling lies, you've made a mistake! If you are telling a lie, it is the same as you are putting mud in your head. Telling lies is not justifiable because it will surely have outcome, a bad outcome, and that; the secret can't be hidden forever. The secret would sooner or later come out and you will just display a frown or a sarcastic smile in your face.
But how will we know if someone is not telling the truth? We all know that “lie detector test” will not give us zero percentage of error. And besides, it is so expensive! So, we must have to find other means on how to determine is someone is telling the truth or a lie?
Actually, there are many things that you must have to consider and you must have to be a keen observant to justify your judgment. The first determinant (symptom, per se) that someone is telling a lie is his physical expression or what we call as body language. It is indeed noticeable that if someone is telling a lie, there will be a change in the way he talks and the way he looks at you. It is also obvious is someone is telling a lie if he will feel uneasy, thus, having few arm and hand movements. So, you must have to observe for the first symptom.
You must have to be curious enough in determining the authenticity of the topic or words presented to you somebody. If you are not sure about what he said, try looking at him with the eye. We all know that liars avoid making eye contact because they are afraid that they will be discovered for being such a liar. So, if he really wants you to believe on what he is saying, have eye contact with him. If he does, good! If not, then, you better not believe him! But of course, don't make initial judgment! Make sure before making any move so as not to make another mistake…not on his part but yours.
The next thing that you must have to do is his emotional gestures which might be a big factor. If he/she is feeling unnatural or uncomfortable of what he/she is saying, then, he/she is proven a great pretender, a liar! Though other people exhibit excellent gesture when telling a lie, we cannot deny the fact that most of us can't perfect the craft. And so, if his/her gesture is totally different or opposite of what is suppose to be right, then move on and don't let yourself believe on them. This is to avoid further damage.
Another determinant that must be observed by you are interactions and reactions. What you have to do is to focus your attention on what they are saying/telling you, be conversational and presto! We all know that if a person is guilty, is not telling the truth, he will become defensive. On the contrary, if the person is telling the truth, he will become offensive and more conversational to you. If questioned, a guilty person/liar will feel uneasy and comfortable talking to you. As if he wanted to walk away from you so that you will stop asking questions to him.
Talking about the way a person talks, a liar could not clearly state his/her point. Sometimes, he/she will just murmur or will not clearly answer the question. As a result, you will have a hard time in analyzing what he/she are saying. An example of this is when you will ask somebody, “Did you drink the last apple in the refrigerator?” and he/she will answer, “No, I did not eat the last apple! In fact, there was still another apple when I got one!” The fact is this; he/she will not want that you will think that he/she is the one eating the last apple in the ref! Funny, right?
The last action to trace whether he/she is telling the truth or not, is to consider the flow of conversation and the way of transferring from one topic to another. If you think that a person is telling a lie, you can opt to change the topic of your conversation. This will make the liar at ease. When you are talking about another topic, he/she will be an active listener again. it is self-explanatory that whenever we are telling a lie, we want to have the topic changed. On the other hand, an innocent person wanted to stick to the previous topic and no matter how you would bring him/her to the new topic, he/she will still have time to make a segue and go back to the previous topic! So, watch out!
