No. Sometimes that word stings. So it's really all in how you say it. When you know how to say NO, it helps make things a little easier. Below are 3 tips to take the bite out of your NO.
Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say
In other words, be direct to the person you are talking to. No beating around the bush. Be clear, be concise and don't make excuses. Excuses only aggravate people and after giving enough excuses, you will usually break down and say yes, even if you really didn't want to. Saying YES when you mean NO ( and i'm talking to you, Ladies!) in order to seem "nice" or not hurt anyone's feelings, only causes resentment. Resentment is something nobody wants. Bottom line is we always have a choice. In our speech, thoughts and actions. If the person you are talking to is someone you are familiar with,it's ok to offer a brief explanation. If you don't know this person from a can of paint, then Be as clear and direct as possible. You are not responsible for babysitting their emotions.
It's OK to Explain your No
Explanations are very helpful when you are refusing something for a spouse or child or maybe a colleague at work. Something simple, clear and plain will avert most hurt feelings. Let the person know you understand their request, but assert your reason for refusing. For example, you may be asked by a friend to pick up their dry cleaning. The cleaners is really out of your way and you have another appointment or, maybe you just don't feel like doing it. You could simply say, "After work i was planning on coming straight home, as I am really tired. If you can wait until tomorrow, I'd be happy to do it then." Now you were direct in your NO, you gave them an option and you didn't say yes. It takes practice, but it can be done. However don't say you will do something you know you won't, this leads to tip 3.
Always Tell the Truth
You should not say No and make up a fib. This damages the relationship to the person you are talking to. Keep your integrity. If you really would like to help, but have time constraints or other pressing matters, make these known. Sometimes your no is only half a no. So come up with alternatives in order to maintain peaceful relations and still control your own life. People ask because they can, you have the option of saying yes or no. The Bottom line is it's always Your Choice.
