Everybody experiences tension. Whether it's at work or in a daily life, tension is an essential function of living, just like hunger and thirst. It is a self-proactive reaction when we are confronted by threats to our safety, well being or self-esteem. Here are some practical positive actions you can take.
TALK IT OUT
When something is not right in the office or at home, don't bottle it up. Share your problem to your immediate superior or someone you can trust. Talking things out will help you solve the problem or at least see it in a clearer light.
ESCAPE FOR A WHILE
Sometimes it helps to escape from painful problem for a while like lose yourself in other activities for a change scene. Making yourself “stand there and suffer” is a form of self-punishment and it is not a way to solve problem. But come back and deal with your difficulty when you are more composed, emotionally and intellectually.
WORK OFF YOUR ANGER
If you find yourself using anger as a general pattern of behavior, remember that anger will leave you feeling foolish and sorry in the end. If you feel like shouting at someone, try holding off until tomorrow. Working anger out of your system will leave you better prepared to handle your problem.
GIVE IN OCCASIONALLY
If you find yourself getting into frequent arguments in the office and are always feeling obstinate and defiant, remember that is the way frustrated children behave. Standing your ground on what your believe is right, but do it calmly and make allowance that you could be wrong. The result will be the achievement of a practical solution, with feeling of satisfaction and maturity.
DO SOMETHING FOR OTHERS
If you worry about yourself all the time, try taking your mind off you and do something for someone else. This will give you a feeling of having done something good.
TAKE ONE THING AT A TIME
To people under tension, an ordinary workload will look too great to handle. When that happens, look into the most urgent tasks one at a time, setting aside the rest for the time being. Once you're done with the urgent ones, the rest will go more easily.
GO EASILY WITH CRITICISM
Some people expect too much from others, and are frustrated when they do not measure up. Remember each person has a right to develop as an individual. Instead of being critical with others, search out the good points and develop them.
MAKE YOURSELF AVAILABLE
Many of us have the feeling of being left out or neglected. It's just imagination. Don't shrink away (it's more practical to make overtures yourself). There is middle ground between withdrawal and pushing. Try it!
Often, emotional difficulties arise from practical problems. The quest for peace of mind or good mental health is universal. Yet only a few are blessed with all the internal qualities and external circumstances that automatically assure it. We have to work to achieve it. It means striving for a better understanding of ourselves and others. It means working out problems and seeking help when we need it.
