When Do You Plan On Starting A Family?
This is a very common question that a newlywed couple will hear almost as soon as they return from honeymoon or within a year or so afterwards. This question is actually very rude and intrusive and should be avoided at all costs. The person asking it may be a family member or friend with a genuine interest in children, which is fine. But asking a newlywed couple about when they will start a family takes far too much for granted.
The question assumes that the couple will definitely have children, which may not be on the agenda at all. Or either the husband or wife may have fertility problems that they do not wish to discuss openly. Asking about children under these circumstances will only cause further anguish and pain. The best thing to do is to not mention children at all. It is a private matter between a husband and wife. If they wish to bring up the subject, then it will be up to them to initiate the topic of conversation.
Do You Miss Your Freedom?
Stay away from this question if at all possible. It may sound funny and some people will take it that way. But others will not appreciate being reminded of what they have "lost" or "given up" by getting married. The truth of the matter is that marriage is a very serious commitment and making fun of the institution of marriage brings it down to a low level of mockery and fun, which is not where it belongs.
Life Just Gets Worse From Now On
This is another way in which older married couples think that they are being funny around newlyweds. A couple who have just exchanged vows should be supported and given lots of encouragement and commendation, not told that their lives will be miserable! It does not give them much to go on if this is what they hear from so-called "well wishers". As a relatively inexperienced married couple, they will want to hear advice and tips for success that they can use in their marriage from more experienced, older married couples.
When speaking to a newly married couple, be careful of what you say to them. You may think that you are being funny or just showing a healthy interest in their marriage, but the reality is that your comments may actually come across as very hurtful and rude, rather than in the way you intended them. If you do not know what to say, a simple "congratulations on your marriage" will do. You can't go wrong with that!
