We have all been in the situation when advice is given, either requested or unwanted. It can range from the type of hairstyle you look best in, or whether you should accept that marriage proposal you just received. What to do? On one hand you value the opinion the of the advice giver, but on the other hand you may be thinking; “How do you know what's best for me?” In some cases these “experts” don't have their own lives together enough in order to guide you in right direction.
Most of us have those people in our lives. They love and want nothing but the best for us. The question becomes when do we stop listening to them and start listening to ourselves? When do we start to give ourselves the credit we deserve? After all who knows what we want or need better than ourselves?
One of my personal flaws has always been lack of confidence. I was (and on occasion still do), find myself wondering what someone else would do when faced with the same decision I was facing. “Will they think I made the right choice?” Will they criticize me for making a decision they don't agree with?” “What will they think of me when they found out what my choice was?” These thoughts can make you crazy. Trust me, I have first hand knowledge of this. I have made countless decisions based on what someone else would think, do, or say. Until I realized that I was the one living with the consequences of those choices, good or bad.
Today's lifestyles are so hectic, bombarded, and confusing, that some have lost touch with who they are. They have become so consumed with gaining the necessities of everyday living that they longer have time to listen to that little voice in their head. Maybe some just never learned how to acknowledge it. Some were just taught to ignore it, listen to what your parents say, don't challenge your teachers, never speak up to your boss. This little voice has an endless supply of direction and guidance, but some of us just don't hear it.
You have the answers you are looking for. Only you know what will truly make you happy. Take time to get know who you are. In doing so you will begin to hear that little voice again. Look inward, instead of all around you. Just listen.
