Used Goods - Ready-Made Family Problems
While it has become increasingly acceptable for divorced women, or women with children from previous relationships, to date, there still exists some stigma of "used goods." The rude assessment that a woman is somehow less due to having been married to another man in the past is on its way out.
However, it is very true that a divorced Mom is often seen as a no-no in dating. Men do not want to get involved with a woman with children. And who can blame them? There is nothing wrong with not wanting to have a ready-made family.
Raising Children With Specific Morals
Another reason why divorced Moms may give up dating entirely is that they wish to raise their children with specific morals. Of course, this could be religious, or simply as basic as not allowing their children to see them with a string of men.
Divorced moms often pour their entire being into raising their children. They might make a vow with themselves that they will not date again until their children are grown up.
No Time, Energy, or Will
If you think a married woman, possibly working, tending the house, and raising the kids is tired, you can't imagine how a divorced Mom might feel. She has to do it all by herself. Being a divorced Mom may leave no time for dating, or no energy to do it properly.
There is the classic joke of a married woman always being too tired for love-making after a long day's work. This actually happens. Being a Mom is a tiring job, especially if she also works outside of the home. After a long day of work, house work, and taking care of the kids, a divorced Mom might have no time, energy, or will left for dating.
Coming to terms with the fact that you may never date again can be difficult for a divorced Mom. Even if the decision not to date is one you make for yourself, there is still mourning to be done. The shift in self perception occurs in many divorced Moms when they come to terms with never dating again.
