Married life inevitably becomes mundane after a while, as we allow ourselves to grow used to our established routines. In the first few years of being with each other, we're able to spontaneously have fun together, but with the arrival of a mortgage, babies, school runs and guitar tuition fees, we can't help but merely live alongside each other and allow past, pleasant memories to provide us the enrichment we need in our ongoing relationship.
After a number of years the old memories get harder and harder to remember, resulting in a boring, stale existence together.
However, we could shake ourselves out of this dust-covered rut and loudly shout "No!” to this happening to us. If you feel that you need to remind your partner that you really do love him, the time has come plan a full and fabulous love-revival week! To help you along your way, I"ve listed 7 different ways to do so, one for each day of the week, - and not a strange uniforms in sight!
These actions would take a measure of sacrifice on the part of the doer, (may even mean you have to take a few hours off work) but it would reap benefits 7-fold from the person you love. These ideas are not about being submissive, they are merely about investing into your relationship by trying out new ways to show him that you still care. They're also about retrieving that loving, carefree girl you once were before you got so used to the man sleeping beside you in bed every night, that you no longer notice him when the frenzy of the shrill alarm clock smacks you in the face at the cusp of dawn.
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- Wake up early on Saturday morning before he does, and take his car to the car wash. Have it valeted and professionally polished, finishing up by filling his tank with petrol (you may have to leave a note to say you've "borrowed" his car, or he may get worried if he wakes up and you've disappeared, and with his car too!). Make sure that you're not filling up a diesel engine with petrol (gas).
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- If you know that he's doing nothing particular at the week-end rent a camper van and surprise him with an overnight camping trip to a historical place where you can make fantastic new memories for the future, (or to a romantic place to relive old ones).
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- Add something special to his collection. If he likes books, get him a copy of a classic book that you know he would enjoy reading. If music is his thing, find out what age he was when he first got interested in music, then get him musical hits from that particular year.
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- If he has a personal telephone at his workplace, leave a short poem as a message on it on Monday morning (nothing too raunchy as there may be other people nearby). Sending texts has become so easy and impersonal, that they no longer have the impact a message on a land line would have.
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- Give him a foot massage. You wouldn't have to take time out to do this, as it could be done while watching TV, taking a bath together, or while having a glass of wine with each other as you chill out after a hard day.
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- Get someone in to do a job he's "been meaning to do" for sometime. It would take the worry of it off his mind.
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Get to his heart through his stomach, by going to his favourite coffee shop on your way to work and pre pay for his cup of coffee (you could leave a message or a note too). Pack him a lunch and include an extra special dessert. That night, make plans for the kids to be taken care of, and cook him a fabulous meal accompanied by champagne on ice. You could have dessert delivered, or if you're a fantastic cake maker, do your most special creation.
After this revival week, your husband will be reminded of all the fun you two used to, and still can have together. This investment will last for years to come and you would've reminded him just how much you love him.
He would take your cue, and because of how much he enjoyed his week of love, may be planning one for you before long. Love is not just a feeling, it takes plenty of effort and dedication. With the rush of life upon us, and kids demanding so much of our free minutes, it's difficult to find a second to remember to spend time with each other. Reminding him by "reviving" your love gives you a bit of scope for being a bit lazy sometimes, or does it?
