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The Myth of Bisexuality

If gender is fixed at birth, if one is born homosexual or heterosexual, if one isn't "turned" into a homosexual because mommy dressed him in pink sleepers or chose to be a lesbian to escape abusive relationships with men, then from whence does bisexuality spring?

Bisexuality implies choice; implies that gender is not fixed but flexible. One can engage in sexual relations with John or Jane; the choice up to the ego.

Clearly, this would fly in the face of current hypothes is concerning gender orientation. This would imply that far from being "wired" into our brains, sexuality is a choice.

Is it a choice? Is there such a thing as true bisexuality? Or is it a "beard" to deny homosexuality?

Many homosexuals speak of the early years when they claimed to be "bi" as the pressure of society (actual and inferred)and their own ambivalence (or need to conform), put them into relations with the opposite sex.

Their interest in same sex coupling was "always" there, but they resisted the temptation, because they wanted to be "straight".

At some point they participated in homosexual relations,ran back to the "safety" of heterosexuality, until such time they could accept the fact that they were homosexuals.

This would confirm the postulate that gender preference is fixed and that attempts to "redirect" are doomed to failure.

If there are mature bisexuals, then the entire comprehension of "fixed" sexuality would be disproved.

Attempts to "change" a person from one preference to another would be possible; the ideas of "emotional woundedness"currently in vogue, and the citing of homosexuality as a symptom of this damage would have a solid basis.

One can not, (no pun intended) have it both ways. If sexuality is fixed, then one is either/or. If sexuality is not fixed then homosexuality is a choice.

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#1 by Dan Davis, Mar 15, 2008
This is going to upset the apple cart. I expect a few hundred
attacks. Good talking points.
#2 by Andy-N, Mar 17, 2008
I have made this argument also so I agree obviously with your reasoning.

It is interesting also that in many studies many people who consider themselves homosexual, say they have experienced back and forth times in their "sexual life."

The "I was born that way" story is a joke.

On a side sad note. Most studies actually suggest child abuse and/or sexual molestation to be an overwhelming link to perversions of sexuality.
#3 by a fool, Mar 17, 2008
Dr. Spitzer, who was instrumental in 1971 in having
homosexuality delisted as a psychological problem, recanted
in 2000.

He had seen more homosexual patients during the years of
'acceptance' and had come to coin the term, 'emotional woundedness' and see homosexuality as a 'symptom'.

Bisexuals due more to destroy the homosexual 'creed' if
you will than the most homophobic. For once there is
the ability for one to chose, so ends 'born that way'.

Sexuality is not fixed, it is flexible. And this of course,
explains why men can rape men in prison.
#4 by , Apr 22, 2008
umm, yes you can be bisexual... you can have feelings for both sexes just the same... wtf
#5 by Flamingo, Apr 25, 2008
It\'s almost a catch 22. On one hand bi sexuality discredits homosexuality and reduces it something that is chosen, and therefore can be un-chosen. On the other hand if bisexuals are \'born\' with an instinct to love both sexes finding neither repulsive, than it does not affect homosexuality at all.
#6 by a fool, Apr 29, 2008
It is my contention that 'bi-sexuality' is the inability
for one to accept that they are homosexual, as if by
having sex with one of the opposite sex means that they
are straight.

As the current 'theories' of sexuality suggest that
one is 'born' not 'made' homosexual, (yes this is
widely disputed) bisexuality would add another question
to the rickety equasion.

What I found so remarkable on two separate Ophra programs
was the female who had been a lesbian, decided she was
male, had her breasts remored, took testosterone, and
was living as a man, and went to a gay bar and engaged
in sex with homosexuals.

The other was this 'transgender' who had been a Hawaiian
beauty queen, became a lesbian, then took testosterone,
married a woman, then became pregnant.

This is the 'man who is pregnant' individual.

So this just compounds the issue even further.

Previously transsexuals would eschew the sex they
were born and claim they were in the 'wrong' body
and once the operation was complete, would live
their lives as 'full members' of that other sex,
so that the operation would have been complete,
the male removing all forms of his sexuality, the
born female having all of her 'plumbing' removed.

This back and forth brings the entire contemplation
of sexuality back to the dissection table, for
everyone can not be right.
#7 by bi'N'proud, May 25, 2008
i approve that every human was born homosexual as Freud used to say.. but not every human wants to have a homosexual experiance..
Those who never try homosexuality are called straight people,but that doesnt mean they are normal.
Those who try homosexuality and like the experiance are called bisexual people,but this doesnt mean they are "not normal" or "weirdoes"..
#8 by a fool, May 25, 2008
My question is that bisexuality would fly in the face of
the current \'philosophy.\'

If one is \'born\' homosexual or heterosexual, then to be
\'bixexual\' would toss those theories through the window
and claim it is \'choice\'.

This would then make any search for the \'gay\' gene, or
the \'nurture/nature\' debate pointless.

This tenant of Freud has been discarded, as many people
esp. homosexuals, will often announce; \"I did not chose
to be this way.\"

Homosexuals also aver that persons who claim to be \'bi\'
have not as yet fully \'come out\'.

If there is a \'biological\' basis for sexuality,
obviously there is some kind of \'on/off\' switch.
If there is not a biological basis...?

The debate must continue.
#9 by Eric, Sep 4, 2008
I think you're missing something here, though. It's understandably odd to say a person was born gay, as people are not born straight or gay, or bisexual or any of the above. We're born children, with extremely little to no sexual inclinations one way or the other, straight or gay. It makes more sense that a person would develop slowly into their inevitable orientation. You're looking for a quick, easy answer, but life is rarely that simple. There's no easy answer here.
#10 by a fool, Sep 6, 2008
I am not coming down on either side, I\'m trying to
explore both hypothesis; if it is hardwired or if
it is choice.

I think you are right, Eric, but there are others who
would dispute the point.

There are no easy answers.

So far there is no \'gay gene\' so far there is no
evidence of \'hard wiring\', hence choice seems to
be the \'correct\' assumption.

However, if one is bisexual, would that mean they
have made no choice...\'yet?\'....

So it\'s a very open topic...
#11 by The Nerd, Nov 7, 2008
I find this rather amusing, as though people can only be "born" gay or straight. My entire life I have felt attracted to people of any gender, and have felt that my mind is somewhere in between masculine and feminine. Bisexuality in no way "disproves" the biological basis of sexual orientation, and in fact may help support it.
#12 by a fool, Nov 7, 2008
The Nerd....I find it not amusing but intriguing to explore
sexuality; for your existence tends to disturb the \\\'official\\\'
positions. I don\\\'t know the answers, I like asking the questions.
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