Abuse has been around for centuries, and yet we all try our best not to pass it on to our family or future family. Why is it that the way some tend to think that it is alright to abuse our children or think it's just an everyday normality? “Yes” I agree at times our children to need disciplining but there are other ways of disciplining our children, besides smacking or kicking or for some who use jug cords, belts, stock whips and what have you.
There are some families who live in denial about the way they have been brought up and tend to close their eyes to the fact of child abuse. Everyone has seen some sort of abuse in their life, but knowing the difference between whether it is alright and whether or not you are willing to open your mouth to a parent, family member or friend and say enough is enough is another thing. Some of us will take a stand and say something but the majority of us sit back and don't want to be a part of it, for fear that the child will end up getting even more abuse. Most of the time, it would be because the fact most parents do not like being told how to raise their children until it's too late. But why is it that they wait for that day to happen before they wake up and see the trauma in their children's eyes or even worse lay their children to rest. The one thing all parents dread is burying their own children because by right it should be the other way around.
Our children, nieces, and nephews suffer only because of the ignorance of parenting skills and the lack of self-worth, which they tend to take their frustrations out on their children. We all need to take a stand and stop the abuse that is going on in our families, make a change in regards to the way how we are brought up and stop making excuses that it is alright to abuse our children. Some of the reasons why we tend to think that abusing our kids are alright because some tend to live in the past and blame it on their parents for the way that they were brought up and then they pass it on to their girlfriends, spouses, and children. Little do we realize that only some make the change of succeeding in a better family life environment and choose not to let their own children grow up in a abusive circumstances and actually do find ways of disciplining their children so that there is a fine line between abuse and discipline.
Disciplining your children can easily be done by not lifting or raising your hand or voice, but taking away the simple things what they enjoy doing is another form of discipline such as games, phone privileges, mobiles, you'll be amazed at how much effect these things will have on a child. They will appreciate the fact of being able to pass the same treatment onto their own children rather than smacking. This is my own opinion, I could probably go on and on but I do realize that not all of us think the same when it comes to child abuse, as we all have our own way of raising our children.
