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How to Stand Up and Be Counted When on Your Own

Nothing is worth selling your principles for, because when the dust has settled and the responses you feared have gone, you’re left alone stripped of the values which moulded the person you were meant to be.

“The stupid, bible-believing morons.”

This is exactly what he said, but the question was, do I now confess to the entire group that I was one of them, or do I simply remain quiet.

Why He Said It

Engrossed in a profoundly important discussion about the psychological and sociological make-up of the people with whom we work, one of the leaders and most intelligent of the group in my college class had just backed up his argument by concluding that the direction of modern social trends towards non-acceptance of different "groups", "races", or "class" had nothing to do with the virtual abandonment of religious teaching in schools. “Of course,” he had said, “The stupid, bible-believing morons do not want to accept this.”

The room alighted with the laughter of twenty four other adults, people I'd gotten to know closely as we met week by week to study together.

He said it in a conversational tone as if to suggest that we here, in chambers of the learned, were clever people. People capable of having intelligent conversations and philosophical banter, who're apart and separate from those who are stupid enough to believe biblical "myths".

The Reaction

The thought that I should keep quiet and not draw attention myself flitted through my mind. I was even tempted for a second when the voice in my head whispered that I would be keeping the peace if I said nothing. After all, my faith in God which lives in my heart would not suddenly grow cold because I chose to say nothing.

I looked at all the smiling faces but barely heard the words now passing from mouth to mouth because my own voice was sending me high-pitched, incomprehensible messages inside my head.

I've always understood how important it is to resist saying things I do not mean. I've always fought to never compromise my integrity in anything, whether it was about spiritual beliefs or merely principles concerning my daily life. This, viewed from the flip side made me realise what it was I needed to, had to do.

The Difficult Decision


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I stood up, heart thumping and said, “I believe the Bible and in God. I am a Christian.”

Nothing happened.

After an uncomfortable silence, the same guy said, “Well I respect that…” and he went on to talk about how not everything should be taken literally and all that.

The important thing was that I had done it. It felt great to me. I wanted no explanation, no discussions, no questions about why. What I did want was peace for my soul, and this was exactly what I got. But more poignant is the fact that now that I've done it, the second time would be much easier.

This Taught Me The Following Things

  1. Nothing is worth selling your principles for, because when the dust has settled and the responses you feared have gone, you're left alone stripped of the values which moulded the person you were meant to be.
  2. You hold your faith dear because they are the reason for your strength. Do not let the masses take them from you because in allowing them to do so, they have succeeded to make you weaker.
  3. Situations that seem scary, if tackled, would serve to build your perseverance and tone your character muscles. Eventually, a strong character will earn respect.
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Comments (13)
#1 by IcyCucky, Mar 25, 2008
I\'ve moments where I just want to keep the peace, too.

I\'m glad you stood up for what you believe my brave friend..
#2 by valli, Mar 25, 2008
People should learn a lot from this article.
#3 by Ed Moore, Mar 25, 2008
Hi ya Annie...Good for you. We can all learn a lot from the teachings of Jesus. The Bible is a moral compass, and I am glad to see people standing up for Christian principles. It's about time.
#4 by Judy Sheldon, Mar 25, 2008
When I hit your like it button, it went up to 6, so there are others who are afraid to voice their beliefs, because you currently have 3 comments. Personally, I know the sweaty palm, heart racing, stomach knotted, flushed face feeling. I am extremently timid in public, and knowing that you may be the only one who feels that way makes it doubly hard. But as you stated, the first time is the hardest, and taking the step "tones your character muscles." I love your analogy. Thanks Anne.
#5 by Ruby Hawk, Mar 25, 2008
The older I get the more I voice my opinions but I still hesitate when I know it will cause controversy, so I know just what you mean.
#6 by Liane Schmidt, Mar 26, 2008
Beautiful article. It takes great courage and belief in yourself to stand up for what you believe in, especially when it seems everyone else in the room is supporting the other point of view. Courage and belief in yourself are admirable traits. Hold strong to them - they will help guide and keep you safe your entire life.

Best wishes.

Sincerely,

-Liane Schmidt.
#7 by Dee Huff, Mar 26, 2008
Stumbled.
#8 by Alexa Gates, Mar 26, 2008
you were definitely right to speak up! Im pretty sure i wouldn't have...
#9 by Andy-N, Mar 26, 2008
Nothing wrong with people responding and defending themselves in a constructive manner.

For one this kind of statement he made is usually a false intensifier or a qualifier. It is the "I must be real smart if I am not duped by that" routine.

The fact is most of us have beliefs without ever really doing the homework.

Also although Ladder Day Saints are not stupid they also do not except the Bible as the final authority any how. They adhere to the writings of the Book Of Mormon. So his comment is "stupid" to begin with. (I am not LDS by the way. So I am not defending myself.)

Ignorance is truly not bliss.
#10 by Nick Kenney, Mar 27, 2008
Good for you, Anne! The guy that made the comment should've had the decency to apologize to you for making such a hateful comment in the first place.
#11 by Cameron Eittreim, Mar 29, 2008
Excellent article.
#12 by Anne Lyken-Garner, Mar 30, 2008
Thanks everyone, I'm glad that you all thought that I did the right thing. Some people think that it's better to keep quiet, and I suppose sometimes we ought to, but this was one circumstance where I knew I couldn't. Thanks for all your supportive comments.

Anne
#13 by christina, Apr 1, 2008
Good for you.

I don't care if someone is a buddhist, christian or non-believer.I don't care if they are black white or green, if they are honest, truthful, loyal and affectionate. Well!!! what more can one ask for in this life? Good woman. Beats all the 'tarts' who are selfish and immoral.
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