I have learned that marriage is all about sacrifice and commitment. It has to be mutual though. I am sad at the thought of my marriage ending but happy to finally have my life back. I know what it's like to be in an unhappy marriage. I know what it is like to live with a controlling spouse. I have learned that being married is about compromising and making decisions together. But what do you do if your spouse refuses to see that and refuses to let you make any decisions? That is something that I miss about being single. I didn't have to be bossed around.
I encourage you if you are single to embrace it and enjoy it. If you are married I sincerely hope that you are happy. I know one day I will be happily married again but for now I think single life doesn't look as dreadful as is used to look in the past. I dreaded the thought of staying single until I was 30. I am only 25 now! I married when I was 21. If only I could have realized then how much time I still had for that!
I don't totally regret my marriage. I wouldn't have my kids if it weren't for my marriage. They are so much fun. I have always dreamed having 2 little girls. I have also learned a lot. I learned how to appreciate the little things that I once took for granted.
When you are single, you can do anything you want to do. If you want to travel or try a new career , you have the freedom to do that. If you are a single parent, it's different. You must think first about your kids and how your decision will affect them. If you are married, you have to consider how your decision will affect your spouse. When you are single, you make all of your own financial decisions. You never have to account to someone else for every penny you spend.
No one can decide for you what is best for you. I recommend that you don't get married until you know for sure that you are making the right decision. It's not always easy to know when and if it is right for you. The choice to be single or to marry is an important issue. The choice you make today can forever change your life.
