There is nothing wrong with pleasing people as long as you are healthy enough to pull it off. Have you taken care of you first? Again this is tricky ground. Having ten hours on the golf course or twelve hours out with the girls is not “taking care of yourself”. That is the once in a while treats.
I'm talking about being pulled by schedules until you want to run away. Did you eat a meal? Did you get in the shower? Sounds silly; but new mothers, for example, have a tendency over compensate until they get a comfortable schedule down.
Or the caretaker of a loved one has the same tendencies. All their energies are absorbed by the patient; and in the end, the caretakers are the ill ones.
So one could say, “Suffer a little while until the season passes”. I think taking a good look at the whole situation is important. Analyzing if everyone is indeed pulling their own weight, so one person isn't the only one toting that barge! There are helps: relatives. neighbors, friends. If none of these are in your world then expand your world. Try a church, Council on Aging. There are people out there. “Give and it shall be given unto you.” Sometimes we think we can't be “given unto”. Get over it. Take the help and bless the giver. Just remember never to become the sponge sucking the life out of your new helper.
Tricky business this business of living. Keep the balances and always give!
