Stress is an Outlook

An example of one of these things is putting our seatbelts on when we get into our vehicles. Now I realize that something like our vehicle seatbelts is hardly a stress causing factor in our awareness, but we also realize that in most states it is required by law to wear them. It's not the fear of having an accident that makes us wear them, if we thought we were going to have an accident that will be life threatening, we wouldn't get into the car, what makes us wear them is the fear that we will get pulled over by law enforcement for a trivial reason that leads to something we never expected. Now some of us believe that because we feel that something like wearing our seatbelts should be left up to the individual that owns the vehicle we simply don't wear them because we have principles of individual rights. Some of us believe that the insurance hikes which could occur should an unforeseen accident does occur is simply better off being compromised with compliance, which is of course stress inducive no matter which way you turn. We would all like to have a stress free life. A life in which the decisions we make cause us no grief, no thought as to consequence and rewards, a place where all we feel is happiness. It truly is obtainable, and the answer is in ourselves.

The key to unlocking the state of mind which we call happiness is acceptance. Accepting that no matter what we choose in each and every choice we make, there are only so many ways that we can control the outcome of our choices. The rest is simply in the hands of the world around us. All we can do is the best we can to make sure that each day will have a positive outcome with our choices. Some women are so conscious minded about their appearance that they struggle to make a simple decision such as which shade of make up base to wear. The weatherman says it will be sunny, but is he right? Will their be an overcast that makes me look bad if I wear a shade too dark? What if it rains, should I carry some additional make up with me? Which purse should I have today? These decisions are what we base our acceptable lifestyle on. Once we accept that the decisions we are stressing over are most of the time beyond our control anyway, they become less stressful on ourselves as well as those around us.

Once we accept that simple decisions have complications on our own personal level, we accept these levels of turning simplicity into complex decisions on levels we are so used to, that we become completely unaware of how it effects us and others. It becomes like a contagious disease that some of us even thrive on. Some of don't seem happy unless we are screaming at others about how they should live just because we feel that is how we live ourselves so it should be acceptable for everyone else as well. It is said that we always hurt the ones we love. It seems with stress in ourselves, sometimes we love ourselves a little too much, ulcers are evidence of that. I don't know why, but it's like some of us are not happy without stress, but for those of us that prefer no stress in our lives to find our path to happiness, the answer is an outlook on life. The right outlook.

I am not saying that we should all just be care free about every single thing, or we shouldn't carefully consider the important decisions in our lives with the consideration that important decisions warrant, but I am saying that within ourselves is an outlook, an attitude, that places our own happiness above anything else. Once we realize that making our true desires happen is as easy as knowing what we want, and doing it, alot of stress will just vanish.

For some of us what we have as a desire is to make certain that our spouse or mate is happy. This brings mutual happiness and harmony. Making a simple decision like this being what you want does not have to be complicated by what it is that makes our spouse or mate happy. This is usually displayed with communication as to what that is. For those of us that have a spouse or mate that conducted acts of infidelity, forgiving is naturally the best thing to do. Looking for reasons of ireconciliation are always easily found. It's the reasons to be true to ourselves that are most difficult to find.

No one ever said that life would be easy, but no one ever said we have to make it harder than it has to be.

You do the crime, be prepared to do the time. You do good, seek your rewards. Accept who and what you are, either you can forgive and forget, or you can't. Some things just can't be forgiven, and what these things are varies on the people that these things are done to, and who it is that does it, whatever it is. Sure we have different religious beliefs that tell us what our moral standards should be, and we have laws which tell us what we are not supposed to do. Knowing the parameters of what we do that makes us happy will determine the amount of stress that we inflict upon ourselves to endure. The real trick to a stress free life is just knowing what it is that makes you happy. Good luck with that.