I am a single woman living in a big city. I spend a lot of time interacting with men in my work life and socially. Having experienced many awkward moments with members of the opposite sex, I hope that the following tips serve as a good guide to men on what women really mean and want.
Just because a woman is friendly does not mean that she fancies you
Why is it men assume that a woman fancies them if she get on well with them? There is a big difference between flirting and being friendly. When a woman is flirting, you will know about it. If she is asking about work, sports or discussing your weekend with your family, it isn't flirting. Flirting is asking leading questions, batting the eyelids or making ambiguous, slightly naughty statements. Know the difference and you'll avoid having your advances turned down.Just because a woman flirts does not mean she will spend the night
After catching a girl's eye in the bar and flirting, how many of you men turn to your mates and go “I'm going to get lucky tonight.”? Wrong. Let me reiterate, girls just want to have fun. Flirting is fun. Women like to feel special and flirting with a hot guy does this for them. Sometimes you may strike it lucky but don't expect it all the time. She will let you know if she is keen. So instead instantly expecting a night of passion from the minute you buy her a drink, enjoy the flirting and company. Who knows, you may be pleasantly surprised. We don't want to spend the rest of our life with you after one date
A date is just a date. Why does a man assume that if a woman is looking for a serious commitment when she agrees to go out on a date with him? Maybe in the 1950's women were on the look out for potential husband material, but this is the twenty-first century. Girls just want to have fun and meet new people. If the right guy comes along - great, but seriously when you go out a couple of times don't stress about it. She is not necessarily after a husband, a house and babies. Just enjoy your time together. Women are not possessions or trophies
Why is it that men always show off their new girlfriends to their mates like a trophy, as if they have won something? This is one of my pet hates. Women are not possessions, or accolades denoting your achievement. A woman is with you because she likes you as a person. When you start strutting around like the cat that got the cream, it is a big turn off. Women do not like to be treated as objects, so if you want to keep her remember to treat her with respect and as you would a beloved family member.When it is over, it is over, Stop trying to win us back
Why can't men handle rejection? Sometimes relationships end. There doesn't need to be a dramatic event that causes it, sometimes a woman just loses the attraction she once had for you. Let it go. Don't bombard her with phone calls, text messages and email - she is not coming back to you. Move on with your life and don't aggravate an already painful situation.
So men, my final word of advice is treat women with respect. Listen to them and read the signs carefully. If the woman you are interested in likes you, she will let you know. If you do end up together, treat her as a partner and as a friend. If it doesn't last, it wasn't meant to be. Just let it go. Good luck and happy dating.
