Humor
Women are very attracted to a man who can make them laugh. This isn't about being a great comedian. I would date a man who amused me. It's about having a general sense of humor that I can relate to. I wouldn't date a man who spent all evening laughing at his own jokes. Relating other people's jokes or funny stories is fines as long as you don't try to pretend they are your own.
Ask
Ask in the right way, and choose the right date.
There are still people who will not make the first move. Boys, if you want to take a girl out, ask her. The best way to do so is fairly casually. For example I would accept an offer of coffee and a chat from a man I liked but wasn't quite sure. If he asked me round to his house for dinner or to go white water rafting I would say no.
Be Non-Threatening
Women do not want to see how strong you are, and we don't react that well to caveman- style tactics. We want a man we feel safe and comfortable with. Any signs of or conversation about violence or force (even in a way you think is funny or sexy) would put me off.
Compliments
It is nice to be told we look nice, that we are interesting, funny, or nice. It is not nice to be told in graphic terms what you would like to do sexually, or compared to other women. Don't try to guess our age. If you say a woman looks older than she is she will not want to see you again.
Being Single
It may sound obvious, but there are married men out there looking for dates with other women. I don't like being used. If you are divorced or separated that is fine as long as you say so. If you are married and looking for a little fun, say so. There are women who will be fine with that, but no-one likes being lied to.
Honesty
You don't need to tell a lady your whole life history straight away, but don't tell lies. If you pretend to be a single consultant surgeon and turn out to be a divorced bin man, I will not date you again. If you tell the truth I probably will.
Looks
It does not matter how physically attractive you are. In fact, personally I am put off slightly by the extremely good-looking men as they are more likely to be vain and/or unfaithful. Weight is not an issue either. Of the men I currently know and would date, neither are lookers. Like you, we will look at a well toned body, but that doesn't mean we would act on it.
Be Positive About Your Ex
We know that how you talk about her, is how you could one day be talking about us. We are smart enough to read between the lines; if you describe every woman you have met as mad, or boring, we will know that the real problem lies with you.
Grooming / Hygiene
This is more important than looks . I would never date a man who smelled of B.O or who was obviously dirty (unless of course he had just finished a genuinely dirty job like building or gardening) Different people will have their own expectations regarding style but we all have them. In general my advice to men looking for a date would be to wear clean, ironed, fairly conventional clothing.
Conversation
I would date a man who has something interesting to say. Perhaps the worst first date I have sat through was the one where the conversation just dried up. It is boring. The way you say it matters too. Excess swearing, poor English and slang or talking dirty may impress some, but will put many people off. Also conversation means you listen. The only thing worse than the man with nothing to say is the one who will not shut up for a second to listen.
Size
You know what I mean; it is not important.
