The Main Ways Women Manipulate Men

by Alaina Ellington, Jul 1, 2008

Something every man should read.

Here are all the secrets boys!

We women have been manipulating men for decades because we know it works! I am going to let out the secret to how we do it! The reason for this is because I am now married and have learned that manipulating actually ruins your relationship! If there are women reading this, I hope that you realize how wrong manipulation actually is!

Telling men what they want to hear
Believe it or not we know exactly what men want to hear, what they like to hear, and what will make them give in! For example: if I want to go shopping, but we really don't have the money or my husband doesn't want to watch the kids I simply say that I need something or say that if he lets me do this then I will let him do what he wants to do. However when it comes time for him to go do that something then I find someway to argue with him until he gives up and once again I get my way on 2 separate occasions!
Sex
Obviously (at least obvious enough to me) men know that women use sex to manipulate them! Most guys will do anything for sex. There are more ways than actually having sex to manipulate though. All we women really have to do is dress in a sexy way and men bend over and kiss our feet. Guys if you want a tip to stop being manipulated in this manner quit thinking with what's below!
Whining
We also know that if we whine about something long enough men will eventually give in so that they don't have to listen to us whine anymore. Men- take a stand. My husband just ignores me, so after being ignored so long I stop whining and deal with the fact that the answer is no!
Guilt
If you have ever done anything that makes you feel guilty and your wife/girlfriend knows about it she will use it over and over again to get her way! The only way to stop this is to realize that whatever you did wrong if you both decided to get over it and make the relationship work then you shouldn't feel guilty anymore. Learn to forgive yourself and remind her that she forgave you for that. Don't give in!
Head Games
Women are masters at head games. We can think up things that we don't even mean just to mess with you! We are pretty amazing if you really think about it! I mean if we don't like something that you do we can talk you out of whatever it is and make it so that you never do it again without even knowing that's what happened! The only way to spot this is if your woman is trying to get you to stop doing something you love and starts rambling on about all these reasons you shouldn't do it this is what she is doing. I have learned this one the hard way. I used to try to do this to my husband, and it worked, however now that he doesn't do anything anymore he is at home to drive me crazy and he is going crazy because he doesn't have anything to do… so this actually works better if we girls steer clear of trying to manipulate and control our men in this way!

Those are the main ways women manipulate and control the men in our life. My advice is to stop manipulating, in the end it only makes things worse. Also for the men out there, take a stand! Don't give in to your women manipulating you, eventually after not giving in for so long she will give up and stop manipulating you!

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#1 by Redburn, Jul 3, 2008

So true, thx for the advice. We must be very careful with women, not only they drain time and money, they are very smart doing such things to a man. lol

#2 by Teresa, Jul 13, 2008

Hello there,

You are right, but manipolation never worked for me in my relationship.

Regards

Teresa

#3 by Eden Emersen, Jul 18, 2008

So true LOL :) Keep telling it straight up.

#4 by Thx alot, Jul 30, 2008

This was some refreshing honesty from a woman. I feel, unless you hook them up to a lie detector, most women wont admit how calculating they are in using emotional tricks to get their way.

#5 by Kathleen, Aug 9, 2008

Now, how about an article on how Men Manipulate Women?

#6 by Ronnie, Aug 25, 2008

If a woman would ever try to manipulate men I would just kill her cause i don't like my feelings and emotions being toyed with

#7 by

Alaina Ellington, Nov 4, 2008

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Sincerely,
Jenysie

#8 by Night9Hawk, Nov 12, 2008

I'm curious to know what you think about what's written on this website

http://ladymisato.9ix.net/

Do you think there's any validity in the points she makes?

#9 by

Alaina Ellington, Nov 28, 2008

Night9Hawk,
Which part of the page do you want to know about? There are a lot of different things on the page...

Do I agree that Real Women Don't do Housework? The answer to that would be no in my case...but every woman is different...what I mean is I am a stay at home mother, and of course I do housework, but my hubby pitches in...

Please clarify which part of the page you would like me to view...

oh and check out:

www.jenysiejane.webs.com

It's a new website for writers to promote their work!!

#10 by Devin, Dec 8, 2008

women are dumb, like dogs

#11 by Hiwayman, Jan 9, 2009

Wymen have not only MANIPULATED men they have also
MANIPULATED the legal system. Thats why any man these days that marry are just fools. And the wymen know it.Glad all those days are behind me now.

#12 by

katarina giselle, Jan 13, 2009

Well written..I disagree with the sex part though. my boyfriend knows im hypersexual so he only breaks down if hes really in the mood...usually he controls me with sex!

#13 by James, Jan 18, 2009

Why should I not believe that you are trying to manipulate me, and other men, now with the disguise of trying to use honesty and telling us what we think we want to hear? :)Tricky Tricky!

Good Try.

#14 by

fornls, Feb 10, 2009

Cool one! I wonder how much percentage of women do really manipulate? I think very few people do so. Statistics always speak for themselves.

#15 by c.s. robins, Feb 25, 2009

I agree with this mostly..except for number one. Telling men what they want to hear is one of the greatest sources of manipulation a woman uses against a man, but your description of this technique is not manipulation. It is simply begging and then not playing fair when it's his turn to get something he wants. He will figure this out and remember it later next time you try try this. Telling them what they want to hear would be something like a great compliment or that they are right or making them think they are so in control...then they become preoccupied with these thoughts while you get away with a lot more stuff, or you get on his good side and he willingly gives you that shopping trip. But teh rest of really true! Especially the last one!

#16 by MCD, Mar 31, 2009

People who manipulate have objectives that have nothing to do with who the other person is, but what that other person can provide for them (money, fame, sex...it's rarely love). It can get ugly...

#17 by shelly, Apr 15, 2009

As simple as this all sounds, i still have great difficulty getting my man sweet...or doing what i want without hard pursuasion... i can never do mindgames but i think i have to start doing some kind of manipulation cos he is quite hard to control hence him being an arab, but within that cultral dominance there is a soft side and i need to start working on how to use that so he can start being less dominante. i think my problem is im too direct i need to start letting him feel he is in control. I need advice

#18 by Night9Hawk, Apr 16, 2009

My appologies to Alaina Ellington-I forgot I had posted here and I'm just now getting back to you. When you were describing how women manipulate men I immediately thought of Lady Misato. I came across her website a couple of years ago on my way to other things and frankly I was stunned at some of the things she said. I initially took her site to be a typical fetish site with people going through the motions but the more I read what she described the more I was struck by how RIGHT she was about some men. The notion that some men could be manipulated into doing things for sex by appealing to their need to compete or accomplish things-i.e. to earn the right for release-sounded a bit like earning a paycheck for hard work or the result of doing some sort of task in a video game. I was curious to know what you thought of this sort of manipulation and where you thought it might fit into your list.

#19 by

Alaina Ellington, Jun 25, 2009

Nighthawk...

I would say that that would fit right into the sex category...women do use those types of manipulation and although it may be more out there, this type men don't seem to mind...in fact they like it!
so it may not be a bad game to play when using that type of manipulation...if that helps...

this article is mostly on the ways women manipulate unsuspecting men...I wanted to let men know so that the manipulation can stop...I hope this answers your question...if not let me know...

Thanks for your interest!!
Alaina Ellington