Home is much more than four walls or corners of the house. It's love in a building. It's rest within protecting walls. It's fellowship with those who are most dear. What would you think of a home if everybody lived in his own prison cell? Home is the man's kingdom, thereby, husband is recognized as "The Man in the House".
Although, husband is not able to spend much of his time in his home, nevertheless, he is fully aware of his responsibilities. He knows he ought to be warm, kind, vitally interested partner. He knows his family is his home. He is aware that he has children to rear and a loving wife as his better half whom he professed his never ending love and devotion. He is conscious that these are his primary God-appointed jobs in life.
I. Some pointers about husband's needs:
- Husband has a right to a clean and orderly home. He is not after for luxurious, huge, expensive, extravagant house but for a clean and neat dwelling. He deserves a home-sweet-home and needs a home which appears to be a castle or paradise of his own. He must feel the home as his resting place, a spot to renew his spirit and to refresh his courage. Without a home, man becomes a anxious, disappointed and soon to be burnout.
- Husband deserves good nourishing meals. Let us begin with a breakfast. Sometime husband gets up early or in the wee hours? So it is advisable for wife, before your bedtime rest, to prepare all the stuff needed by your husband for tomorrow. You can already prepare boiling the water for his coffee, set the table, set the rice or bananas where it can easily be obtained. Put the Bible in the area where he can easily see it. Prepare his food the night before.
- Husband deserves an economic security. He has a right to know that his wife spend money wisely.
- Husband deserves to be a Father. You cannot set aside the fact that there are husbands fell incomplete without the miracles of having babies in their homes.
- He deserves a wife who acts as his helpmate, meets his needs, a better half who is contented and satisfied to be his spouse.
- Husband deserves a physical need (sex) which must be met by his wife but with moderation. This is one of the reasons why God ordained marriage. Sex is an area which only a loving wife can fill. It is also a never-ending need on the part of the husband. When the wife in true affection and unselfish kindness meets this need she opens a source of happiness that will never run dry.
The Apostle Paul has reminded husband & wife about their accountabilities to each other and these are indicated in I Corinthian 7:2-5 But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. 3The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
II. Duties of Husband:
- He gives honor to his wife as the weaker vessel, for she is partaker of the grace of life.
- He must patiently accept the impulsiveness of his wife, for there is nothing in the world more hurtful than a woman if she be hardly dealt or strongly be annoyed by his husband.
- The husband in any case must not have affairs with any other woman but to his one and only wife.
- The husband must not injure his wife by word or deed, for a woman is a feeble creative, and not endued with such a noble courage as the man; she is sooner pricked to the heart, or moved to passions than man.
- The husband must be a good provider of his family. He takes the full responsibility of being a breadwinner. He must provide for his wife and her housekeeping according to his ability.
- The husband, in disagreements with his wife, must sometimes confess himself defeated by her.
III. Concerns that Husband must take into consideration. This reminds him about his vital part in their home.
- Do you allocate or give the appropriate amount of the family income to your wife to spend as she chooses, without accounting?
- Is your love for your wife always fresh in every moment of your life? Are you always excited to ‘court' her with an occasional gift of flowers by remembering his birthday and your wedding anniversary?
- Are you always willing to be cooperative to your wife in sharing your responsibilities in taking care of your children and backing up your better half?
- Do you make sure not to criticize nor condemn your wife in front of other people?
- Do you show interest in and respect for her intellectual life?
- Do you always enjoy to spend a quality time and share, at least, half of your recreation hours with your wife?
- Are you open, understanding and willing to allow your wife to pursue her plans for social activities, express talents and fulfill dream for your family?
- Do you exert efforts to understand the peculiarities of feminine psychology and to help her through her varying moods?
- Do you show as much consideration for and courtesy to her relatives as you do to your own?
- Are you enthusiastic enough to tell your wife, at least, one a day how much you really love her and desiring to show it to her?
