Why does the world have to be so mean? If it was a little nicer we could all get along. All compromise enough so everyone could have a little bit of everything, no matter how hard they worked. We all want everyone to be nice to us about things. We want them to be nice when we've made a mistake. Haven't worked as hard as the next guy. Or when things are just plain tough. I've observed alot of people being nice, and alot of people asking for you to be nice. It does all have one thing in common."Guilt."
When your right to give one employee a promotion over another, it isn't very nice. So you feel guitly for doing the right thing. When its the right thing to turn off someones tv, it isn't nice, so again you feel guilty for doing your job. When you tell someone they did something wrong, it's not very nice, so you can feel guilty for helping them to see where they can improve. Nice is a very useful tool, when you want to make someone feel guilty for being right. I'm truthful, respectful, and I try to be well mannered to people whom I deal with. But I'm rarely nice. I don't feel guilty for doing whats right. For speaking about whats wrong, or giveing them the truth about how things are. I'm not a nice person. I won't compromise my principals to make you feel better.
The more I talk about this, the more of a distinction of how things should be comes to mind. Compromise is not a virtue, balance is. We need to seek out more balance than compromise. Look at it this way. If you play video games all the time, your work, or education, even your family life falters. No one's saying video games are a bad thing, I happen to love my play time. But we can't compromise these important issues. They're a major part of our lives. Of course if we just balance out our free time, and do the right thing by sticking to that balance. We don't have to compromise anything.
In life too much of a good thing is bad. Too much water, we drown. Too much sucess, we can't handle failure. Too many conveniences, we have no clue what to do without them. Some things we can control, others we can't. Anything can be taken to extremes, we understand this. We're at war now because of extremeism. But balancing our lives isn't the same thing as compromising them.
I think sometimes we have such problems because, we've been convinced that pride, and accomplishment are bad things. We seem to collectively think that, reaching out, working hard, and getting what you want is somehow evil. A bussiness grows too large because it did the right thing, and succeeded. It's now the enemy. Someone works harder, puts in more hours training, and wins the game. They're the bad guy for being proud of their accomplishment. When did being a good sport become more important than learning from our mistakes? Why is everyone so afraid of admitting to mistakes, when they give us a chance to learn, and better ourselves?
Listen I'm not saying that you have to be perfect. Perfection dosen't exist. If you want to find someone, and know beyond a doubt that they're wrong. Find somone who thinks they're perfect. We all make mistakes, we're all wrong sometimes. So if we're all wrong sometimes, whats so scary about it? It's something we should all be able to relate to, and work past it. Shouldn't we all be learning and growing, even improving. If you're getting better every day, you're on the right track. If you're compromising with yourself and saying, "I did my best, I guess I just can't do anymore than that.". You're just standing still. No wonder why people are passing you by, then.
The biggest thing we have as a species, is our ability to adapt, overcome, change, with time and circumstance. Perfection isn't what it's about in life. The search for perfection, the constant improvements even in small ways. Thats the big deal, its about living. Those that improve thrive. Those that don't stagnate, and die. You can't improve yourself if you constantly compromise whats right for whats easy.
Things come down to competition. The real opposite of compromise. If you work harder, smarter, better than the other guy, you win. Compromisers want you to give in, play nice. You're supposed to give up what you've earned, to make them feel better. Worse than that, you're supposed to give up what your accomplishing for society, to make them feel better. Competition breeds improvement, constantly having to better yourself, and your service. To stay ahead of the other guy. It allows society to reap the rewards. When you compromise with the competition. Work together, the only thing society gets. Is a mediocre product at twice the price. It wouldn't be nice to do better than your competitor after all. They shouldn't have to work harder to beat you to the punch. That might not be fair.
Compromise stems from a single issue. Right will beat wrong every time. Because the right thing to do, gets the job done. The only way to make someone doing it right lose when you do it wrong, is to make them give up. To compromise they're position. Give you what you want, because they feel guilty for not being nice. If theres no compromise, then doing it the wrong way fails everytime.
I guess I'm trying to make a simple point. I would hope that anyone who reads this can say. "Of course I know that, it's common sense". Some how I just doubt, that will happen. If you compromise, you have to give up something that's right, or else you wouldn't need to compromise in the first place. When you give up on whats right, you move backwards, not forwards. Life from the beginning has been about improving, moving forward. If you don't move forward, whats the point? I never thought stagnating like that was a real life. It just seems to boring to me.
