Jealousy 2008-04-17
It happens all the time 24/7; it's like your daily routine. It typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when one believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. The good old scenarios where you watch your best friend essentially “get it on” with the guy/guy you are dating or seeing, describes it all.
You may already have a sense of what feeling is being described. Jealousy, it is the fear of losing something that one has, or in some cases it can be something that someone does not have and wants to acquire or wants others not to have. Jealousy is normal it can happen to 5 month olds to 65 year olds.
It can be expressed in many different ways from expression, emotion, a feeling, a theme for a painting, a song, a play, or a movie. Jealousy frequently is used to describe what is more properly envy, fixation on what someone else has. There are different types of jealousy such as interpersonal jealousy(affects personal aspects e.g. saying or being jealous of another person's looks and/or skills), suspicious jealousy, delusional jealousy, normal jealousy(occurs in people who are neither sensitized nor suffering from a major illness), abnormal jealousy, symptomatic jealousy(people with major mental illness such as paranoid disorder, schizophrenia, substance abuse, or organic brain disorder can suffer from this), pathological jealousy(people with personality disorder or strong sensitizing experiences, are especially sensitive to self-esteem or relationship threat can experience pathological jealousy), or there is even sexual jealousy. Pathological, normal and symptomatic jealousies are the three major types of jealousy that all the other types are categorized under.
Some common examples of jealousy could include the one where you're dating a guy to whom you trust, and love and one of your girlfriends is all up in it with him, flirting and trying to get him. You become jealous because you don't want to lose him. There is also the example of being jealous because you can't have something, say there is this girl in your history class who you are totally crushing on, but you know a lot of the other guys like her too and when you see one of your buddies checking her out, you get a sense of hatred inside because there is something that you would die for in front of you maybe being taken right before your eyes or you making it so that you are not able to get her.
Jealousy mostly has to do with love. It really does happen a lot but in most scenarios you and the other person get over it. Just think the next time your al lovey-dovey for some guy or girl who gives you butterflies, and someone gets to them before you do…its jealousy. When you're out there flirting with the hottest people in your school, be aware of whom you could be hurting…for the victim, it's jealousy. Jealousy… it's a spice of life!
