Most people can tell when someone is lying by the easy clues that people have learned over the years. The avoidance and getting defensive topics usually discussed. But there now that we know what some of those signs are people are getting really good at not showing them. Good liars have become aware of what you are looking for.
Take for instance a husband who cheats. Of course he is lying when he tells you he worked late and of course you would know that when he gets defensive about it. But he already knows that. So he doesn't get defensive, he stays calm and because you are looking for obvious signs of the lie, you believe him. He doesn't exhibit any outward signs that he is lying to you. He acts the same, he responds the same and nothing seems different, he is just working late a lot. How would you ever know that he has been working late with his secretary and most of the time at the local restaurant or bar. Some of these “Good Liars” can even tell you the truth, right to your face and have you think it is ok, believe it or not it does happen.
They adore you too much.
I know most people like that but hearing it everyday and the same words over and over, come on. Most people wouldn't complain about that but I am here to tell you that a good liar sets up almost a recording in their head reminding them of what they need to say to keep you off their trail. I love you does not count by the way, it should be said often, or telling you that you are beautiful. At least that is what you would think. I hate to make you paranoid so just remember not everyone who says that you are beautiful or that they love you every single day is lying. It is just that liars are good at remembering what you like to hear. If you are concerned that they tell you too much, then you may be on to something. Do some investigating and find out if they were ever the same way with someone else in their lives.
I know a man that tells everyone he is with that they are the most beautiful women that he ever met. His excuse is that he didn't meet them until after the other one so he says he was telling the truth to each one. In reality, he cheated on them all. He was using that little recording in his head that we all love to hear. He tells his wife that he has now that she is the best wife in the whole world, but he said the same thing about his ex-wife, that he cheated on a number of times and then said they should have split up years ago because she was the worst wife ever. Which is true, the recorded message that he told them or the last statement. So be wary of them adoring you too much, they may be covering something else up. Remember the old adage the eyes tell all.
Well, not always. I have watched people who have complete and full smiles on their faces and in their eyes, lie right through their teeth. Don't get me wrong, watch their eyes, but just because their eyes don't seem to be lying doesn't mean they are telling the truth.
