Here's some ways which will slip you into that confident state. When you feel more confident, you give yourself permission to act and behave differently.
Note: these are quick short term confidence boosters, they aren't needed. True core confidence comes from how you think on a daily basis, your beliefs and past experiences. Maybe I'll write an article about true core confidence another time.
Music
Music is released everyday, it never stops. Blast out your favorite music on your iPod and sing along to it. It gets you in a confident state. If you don't have an MP3 player get one, shove all your favorite music on it. Listen when you're getting ready to go out. This is a huge state pumper. Get variety, spice it up "cause if you"re listening to same thing over and over you'll become bored of it.Body and Mind
The two are connected and influence each other. Use this to your advantage. Start by being aware of your breath. Breathe deep from the stomach (health benefits also). Take up space, hands out of pockets, don't fidget, use much slower movements. Smile. Not a fake smile. Think of something that makes you laugh or just happy and smile. The smile comes from the eyes, the mouth follows. Fake smiles start from the mouth. It's subtle but we sense it. Find someone famous who is confident and watch how they behave.Inner/Outer Dialogue
When you look at yourself in the mirror, you have to accept and love yourself - *No matter what!*
You're looking in the mirror... Tell yourself "I am the bomb!", "Knock "em dead baby!", whatever works for you. You don"t need a logical reason to be confident really but if they help you then use "em. When you"re talking among others, project your voice and use emotion. Be enthusiastic. You've got to be aware if you are being uncertain or talking to yourself negatively. Stop. Breathe. Imagine a sheet of blank white paper. This interrupts your state and you can start focusing on how cool you really are again. It's easy to lose track but once your on, you're confident and unaware of it because you don't need to be aware of it anymore.Physical Activity
Gym, football, dancing, swimming, whatever. Just moving around makes you feel more confident. I know I feel great after coming home from the gym, I'm a lot more creative like when writing articles and even talking to others. It's like a confident flow-state and everything goes well and it's all natural.Treat Yourself
Get some really good looking comfortable clothes, a haircut, a massage or even a shower (hah, just kidding). This gets rid of the old subconscious anchors you might have to yourself. An anchor is a feeling inside yourself that's triggered by something that happened in the past. Like an old favourite song you haven't heard in years brings certain feelings back.Imagination
Imagine yourself being confident. How do you walk, talk and act? Remember a time when you were feeling euphoric. What did you see, feel, hear, smell, touch... Identify with it as much as you can. Remember a time when you were successful or achieved something. Passed your driving? Aced a test? Learned how to ride a bike? Gave a public speech? Whatever!
