Do you believe that a guy who possesses a macho demeanor is much more easily compelled to commit rape? Do you believe that machismo oriented characters may be a personality type that can easily tolerate rape and/or the sexual exploitation of women?
For over a decade, a small number of feminists have led us to believe that most guys rape because they are profoundly angry at women. (Parse before becoming angry. There is a huge difference between what a "guy" is and what is a "man.")
For years, behavioral researchers have alleged, without offering an accurate explanation worth accepting that many guys "simply" become momentarily wacky. During those brief moments of wackiness, they become excited by the wrong stimulant.
However, checking out the state of mind of a lot of people in our society today, researchers believe that the bad attitude of most guys derives from their feelings of inadequacy and powerlessness toward women. Between the feminists and the behavioral researchers' theories, will we ever know the real reason why guys rape, (other than their anger and powerlessness toward women) not only physically, but emotionally and mentally as well?
In our societies there are guys who possess a mind so corrupt that they are unable to distinguish right from wrong. The moral compass is definitely missing. As reasonably intelligent adults, we know that when guys present a mild or sharp interest in X-rated, sexual fantasies, they possess an unfeeling quality toward women. Those guys who possess twisted personalities willingly accept and permit to push them to the point where they actually believe that violence in any form is masculine, and dangerous risks motivate them to play out their twisted fantasies. Those ill-omened guys are the ones who continually use sleazy tactics to seduce someone to have sex with them. I suspect that some guys (not the real men) will disagree and perhaps argue that there is a huge difference between compassion-less (pretend) sexual conduct, and possessing sexually coercive behaviors. Those who disagree that they are using coercive tactics (alcohol, drugs, verbal manipulation, emotional blackmail and anger) most likely misinterpret in their minds subtle tactics - seductive and charming manners - to get what they want.
In a study conducted by Psychology Today magazine, 75% of males admitted having used drugs or alcohol to get what they wanted. Sixty-nine percent admitted using some form of manipulation, forty-percent used anger and 13% had threatened force. This particular survey was available ten years ago, and only because those guys willingly admitted their devious tactics.
Today, most guys rarely admit to anything, plead the Fifth Amendment and practice their cunning and manipulative ways in private, while at the same time, feigning insecurity, seduction and charm to intimidate someone (by appearing very confident or aggressive) into believing they are in the presence of a decent and real man.
Then, when those same guys become comfortable and secure that they've gained from their tactics, they generally begin to whine in emotional tones about how they suffer from anxiety and fear. They are frequently depicted as aggressive (macho) guys who may feel aroused while watching pornographic movies.
There is a necessary reality most of us do not consider and that is that potential rapists are, unfortunately and in many instances, guys with whom we share part of our lives. It is necessary for women to exercise the power of their intuition and absolutely trust their instincts when defining the psychological macho male, and then separate him from Real Men with whom you can communicate specifically what you want (do not want nor need) in your life.
Clues to Detecting a Potential Rapist
- If he becomes aroused by having thoughts of violence against women, he is usually an extremely impulsive person.
- The guy motivated by anger and/or emotionally lack discipline is a person who is extremely angry at women so that the only way for him to deal with his anger is to sexually attack women. This guy is much more violent and dangerous than number one.
- The repeated predator has difficultly all his life establishing solid relationships, and has a history of constant problems in life. He breaks many rules sexually and the non sexually.
