10 Big Mistakes Guys Should Avoid on a First Date

We all know it. Never before we had such a staggering number of single people and it's all a consequence of our modern society. But no man is an island and of course most guys are out there looking for the right date. Internet dating sites are flourishing and more networking is possible through sites such as My Space or Facebook. Thanks to this revolution, even the most introvert guy in the world can attain stardom: it's all a matter of choosing the right word and connecting with the right people.

So there you go: finally managed to put your profile on view and after long days of waiting, a charming brunette from your town decided to reply to your post. That's right! This could be love at first sight (or maybe not). Try to contain your excitement and keep your mind cool. Of course you have a good reason to feel thrilled; nobody could blame you for it. But until you actually meet her you won't even know whether you'll click or not: it could be an amazingly boring date or a blow out on every proportion if you don't get things right.

There are a lot of guys out there claiming to know the perfect technique to conquer a woman's heart on a first date, but let me tell you one thing: every woman is different and no matter how hard you try to impress her, if she's looking for another type of man nothing will come to avail.

However, there are certainly some unforgivable flaws you should avoid doing on a first date and knowing them will at least make sure that your newly found prospect won't consider you a total ***, and if there is some chemistry between you two, then be sure to flight through the first kiss- or a second date- in no time!

So, Here We Go: 

Arriving in late: this could be the perfect behaviour to spoil your date from the very start. It could be simply inexcusable. As a matter of first golden rule you should never arrive lateon a first date. Remember that even a tolerant woman would be slightly annoyed by it (and an impatient one she will be tempted to flight you out the window as soon as you appear!); in any case your carelessness is likely to be considered as a pure lack of savoir faire and respect. In the unfortunate case of this situation materializing, you should look as profoundly sorry and apologetic as you can be and explain that the incident was due to unforeseen circumstances completely out of your control.

Making compliments about her appearance right from the start: you would think that most women will consider it reassuring, but there is also a high chance that they would regard you as superficial. Leave nice comments for later on, don't rush into it as soon as you see her; surely there will be plenty of opportunity to tell her how much you are impressed with her hair/eyes/style (just for now, avoid comments on specific part of her body if you can) during the conversation.

Asking too many intimate questions: you should keep in mind that the two of you are still strangers and being too direct with her could provoke a defensive reaction. Showing interest in her life is certainly fine and asking questions is a way to show that you care about getting to know how she feel, BUT at least for now it would be wiser to keep your questions and discussion on a more general level, avoiding “bulldozer style” intrusions in her private life, unless she is the one to prompt it. I agree that there are some women out there wanting to tell you everything about their life on a first date (and I would be probably one of them!): if that's the case then their open attitude will be obvious and you have nothing to worry about it (it's likely that she would enjoy even your most intrusive questions). However, most women are likely to prefer preserving a bit of mystery on a first date and would consider rather rude your curiosity (as the adage goes: better to be safe than sorry).

Talking on your mobile phone: as we all appreciate good manners, taking calls on your mobile should only be done under restricted circumstances. First of all, if you are expecting an important call you should mention it earlier to her, so that when the call arrives you could simply excuse yourself for a minute, move to another area to allow privacy and take your call. This would not cause any problem (on the contrary it is probable that she would be delighted by your class). In any other case, the best way should be to leave your mobile phone either switch off or silent, and even better if you could do that in front of her (for example by saying: “now let me switch off my phone to avoid be disturbed”). She would definitely be impressed by it.