If you don't make the right impression in the first minute your hopes of romance might slip away. Whether you are a man or a woman knowing how to flirt can make all the difference.
Take a Minute
You have around one minute to connect with a stranger. Within this time you have three priorities to attend to. The first is your body language - over 50% of your communication comes from this. The second is the way you talk and only finally comes the content of what you say.
Blink Away
Blinking is a flirtatious act. You'll keep the attention of the other person if you blink a little more. Be careful of not blinking because if you're out to flirt a concentrated gaze can be interpreted as a stare-threat which can cause discomfort.
Do as They Do
This is a technique called mirroring and it's something you will see with couples, friends and even work colleagues. Mirroring literally involves positioning your body in the same or similar fashion to the person you are with. If they sip their coffee, you sip yours, and so on.
Show It In Your Face
Your face is your main source of non-verbal communication so use it to your advantage. One example is the eyebrow flash. Ever notice what happens to eyebrows when people meet? They raise the eyebrows - sometimes it's quick and subtle but it happens. Anthropologists believe this is a link to our animal past and is similar to gestures used by monkeys and the great apes. The eyebrow flash says, "I"m your friend'. Extend the eyebrow flash for an extra second or so and you're sending a subtle sexual signal.
It's All In The Eyes
Be careful how you use your gaze. People we don't know often feel uncomfortable if the gaze is too extensive. Keep your gaze around the face and especially the eyes, nose and mouth. Try giving a dreamy look at their mouth while they are talking and then roll up to the eyes - so very flirty!
What's The Point of Make Up?
You may say it's to make you look and feel better and you're right, but it's also an enhancement of your sexuality. A man or woman looks for these features anyway (eyes, lips, facial symmetry) but cosmetics provide what psychologists call a super-sign stimulus and if you use this with tones that suit you, the effect can be dramatic.
Face to Face
People who fancy you will tend to want to look at you face to face. You can encourage the process even if you are sitting next to the person. If you ask questions and tip your head to the side you are sending out signals that you're interested.
Tease It
Teasing your hair is yet another signal. Don't overdo it because it might look like you're nervous and this can make the other person nervous.
Don't Touch
Don't touch your face as this usually means you're tired or anxious or irritated
Remember The Number Four Rule
For example, looking away, folded arms, tight lips and frowning means no! Treat flirting in the same way, if you see four flirt signals then you are making a good impression. So tread carefully, go steady, and don't assume. There will come a point when you'll be as sure as you can be and the rest is up to you.
