In response to the criticism that my first article '10 Innocent Mistakes made by a Husband'
was a little bias, I will list here the 10 common mistakes a wife can make.
Listed here in no particular order of importance
- Personality Make Over - not possible. Your husband will always be the man you married, no matter how much you try to "improve" him the sloth, the larrikin, and the boy will always be there so you better learn to live with him.
- Toilet Training - don't complain about the toilet seat being left up or the toilet roll holder being empty. Firstly a seat left in the upright position means that it is a dry seat and secondly whom do you think is responsible for using the most toilet paper? Why not just keep it stored somewhere close where you can reach it sitting down and learn to focus on the bigger picture. Unless of course you are willing to kill spiders, remove dead vermin from your house, and take your 57 kilo German Shepard to the vets for a prostate exam yourself.
- The Prude - your husband will always want the wild love goddess you were in the beginning of your relationship, and who can blame him. But alas have wild nights of endless passion been replaced with collapsing in a heap between the sheets in modest and yes, sometimes flannel nightwear. Unleash the goddess occasionally, you deserve it too.
- Sledging - don't put your husband down in front friends, relatives and even worse your children. If you can't say anything nice then don't say anything at all as the old saying goes. Besides if he really is that bad, then they don't need you to point out the obvious.
- Cruel and Misguided Punishment - its not his fault you suffer from PMT, blame your gyno, doctor or at the very least your pharmacist! It has nothing to do with your husband. If you need help at this time, tell him, write some lists of what you need him to do and post them in several places around the house along with some local takeaway menus, toilet and fridge doors usually work best. You know when your time of the month is, so plan accordingly, act like it was his time of the month and PLAN! Arrange for the kids to be out of the house, get a collection of dvds to watch, a book to read, a journal to vent in to, a stash of Cadbury's, PMT medication and fish out the wheat bag from the behind the sofa. Do not be a martyr, instead do these things when your feeling good so that when the time comes it will be smooth sailing for not only you, but also your entire household. Don't just yell, pout and get all resentful because you don't have what you need. Ultimately you teach people how to treat you, and in this case teach them you can.
- Midday Drama Queen - don't call your husband at work just to tell what a disappointment he is and how your mother was right, you should of married that other guy…… Nobody wants that. Save the whining until you are face to face, you might feel differently when you see him and if you don't well your relationship is in need of a serious overhaul. If you must speak to your husband while he is at work make sure it is just for the important stuff, and always finish on a nice note - I love you, looking forward to seeing you, stay safe. Men fight their own battles out in their chosen field every day. They are out there to support you and your kids and yes you work hard too but does he call you and tell what a disappointment you are? If he does see my point earlier regarding the overhaul.
- Jealousy - men have eyes, men see other women in the media, on the streets etc. They will look and so they should. They should appreciate women, after all you are a woman. What they can't do is compare, contrast and wish you were more like her.
- Mother - you may have every good intention to just look after your husband, but be careful you are not simply becoming his mother. There is a reason why he left home and chances are it was to get away from his mother. You may have kids but he is not one of them. If your husband wants to stay up late and eat junk food the night before a big important day at work - let him. Let him also suffer the consequences.
- Know all Navigator - yes you both know he should of stopped and asked directions 20 km ago. But he didn't and you nagging him about that fact isn't going get you to your destination.
- Getting Stroppy - avoid this, especially if it is because you husband has innocently answered a question you asked but that you didn't want an honest answer too. For example if you have to ask then YES your bum does look big in that, NO he doesn't think you new hairdo makes you look younger, NO he didn't think that meal was the best you ever made and YES he does have a thing for Jessica Alba.
The point I am trying to make ladies is to love him, just as he is, just as you want him to love you. Men have feelings too you know, real ones, not just ones about the footy.
