So, you've been dating/living/married to your man for some time and some of his habits makes you physically ill: he leaves the toilet seat up, he leaves his socks on the floor, and/or he drinks the last drop of milk and puts the carton back in the refrigerator. All annoying traits, yes, but are they signs you should through him out like yesterday's trash? I've compiled a list of signs that can give you a clue that it might be time to give your man his walking papers.
He No Longer Considers Your Feelings
If you break your leg and your man doesn't even visit you in the emergency room, that's a problem. It shouldn't have to come to that extreme: little signs that indicate a lack of empathy should be enough for you to know that your relationship has run its course. Need some examples? You have a bad day (and it's written on your face) and he doesn't ask you about it. You have a headache and he doesn't offer you an aspirin. If you are in pain, whether physical or mental, and your man says or does nothing…that's someone who doesn't care about you.He's Become the Invisible Man
When you're with someone, they should be there. If you are in a long distance relationship, that's one thing. If your man lives across town but you hardly ever see him…that's a sure clue that he's just not into you anymore.He's Become “Mr. X”
You used to know your man inside and out but now you don't know what's going on in his life. For all you know he's changed jobs, his name, his hair-color, his sexual orientation. You can't be in a relationship if you don't even know the person you're in a relationship with.
You Can't Stand the Very Sight of Him
You used to love his face. The cute way he smiled at you. Now…whenever you see him you want to throw up. Before, he said the cutest things. Now, if he speaks you want to slap him. Again, this may be extreme but if you don't have an attraction to your man anymore, that's a BIG problem.You Keep Secrets
One of the best things about being in a relationship is that you have someone you can confide in. A confidant is someone you can trust. If you can share with your man, it's because you can't trust him. You should be able to trust your man. There are some secrets that everyone keeps to themselves but if you find yourself keeping more and more things closer to the vest.
No Sex
This one doesn't include for medical reasons. This one doesn't include those couples who had a slow sex life to begin with. This clue is for those couples that were having sex but now don't. Depending on how long you've been together, a natural decrease in the frequency is normal. I'm talking about the total absence of any desire for your man. When you don't want to have sex with your man under any circumstance,s that is a major problem.
He Doesn't Tell You About Important Things
This one ties into number five. You may still tell your man things but he doesn't tell you things. Very important things like he's seeing someone else.
You're Very Unhappy
You can't expect that every day in a relationship is going to be sunshine and lollipops. However, if everyday feels like slow torture and you just want to curl up into a ball and cry…that's not a good thing. You could be depressed but if you feel this way because of the one your with…you don't need a therapist to tell you that breaking up may make you loads happier.His Little Bad Habits Make Your Blood Boil
I have a boyfriend. He leaves the shower curtain open. He puts a dish in the sink and doesn't scrape the plate so the sink clogs. He takes off his pants and lets them drop wherever; usually it's in the middle of the floor. And he snores loudly. These are things that he does. I've asked him to stop (not the snoring; I know he can't help that). He says he'll try. He doesn't. It doesn't cause me too much angst. If your man does little things that make you want to go nuclear, he should leave your crazy behind alone!
You Feel Trapped
You feel crushed by the love you feel for your boyfriend. The weight of it is immense. No situation is unchangeable. You CAN free yourself. You just need the strength of your convictions.
One of the things I've been guilty of in the past is staying with someone because I felt that I couldn't do any better. That was a mistake. It is really true: you can do bad all by yourself. I don't care if you feel you are too old to find someone new, or too ugly, or too fat. No relationship is worth you giving up your own happiness to maintain it. I realize that being a strong person is not always easy; but I believe that it is the ONLY way to live and to love. However, don't mistake strength for inflexibility: I pick up my boyfriend's pants all the time.
