10 Signs Your Man is Cheating on You

Have you been having sneaking suspicions? Daunting Doubts? If you've watched any “Maury” at all, you've seen enough stories to know that the woman asking for a lie detector test already has more than enough information to suspect her man of cheating/leading a double life/dressing as a clown. Do you have to go to the extreme of hooking up your honey to a machine? Heck no! If you are a smart, capable and intelligent woman, you already have all the tools you need to sniff out the truth. All you have to do is open your eyes to the following signs:

Black becomes White

A sure sign of a problem is when your man was a talker and then turns into a deaf-mute (or vice-versa). This is one of the very first signs to look for. Only the truly insane can carry on a double life. Normal people (even cheating men); find it difficult to lie on demand. So, instead of telling you about his day (like he used to do), he clams up for fear of revealing too much. The guy who never said anything suddenly starts giving up all sorts of information to “screen” his other activities. Beware any sudden or inexplicable shift in your man's personality.

The Vanishing

Men are creatures of their own habits. You don't need for your man to disappear for days at a time to suspect something. However, missing hours, longer than average times to do a task (three hours to get milk from the store, an hour to fill up the tank, etc.) are another sure sign.

See, what had happen was…

This one is in close company with number two. Your man disappears but when he returns, he's got some outlandish tale of intrigue that caused him to be late. Sometimes these tales aren't obvious, such as, “Honey, I was kidnapped by gypsies!”, but they still stretch the imagination. The way you can tell is from your own experience and the frequency in which you have to hear you man's tall tale. If he never told you such fanciful tales before, but know goes out of his way to explain now, watch out.

The hunted becomes the hunter…

This is a classic technique that: deflect guilt by accusing someone else. Some of the higher level of the man animal employs this technique. Why defend yourself if you can make someone else feel guilty? I have fallen for this myself. The trick is to not deviate from what the original discussion/argument/Battle-Royal was all about. He will employ all the tricks at his disposal to deflect you. Remaining focused is the key; no matter what he tries.

Your future looks hazy…

He used to talk about future plans with you. He suddenly stops. Why? It's because he doesn't see you as part of HIS future. If you can't answer, “where do you see us in 6 months?” it's because he doesn't see the “us” in six months.

They call me Mr. Clean!

This goes back to when I stated that men are creatures of habit. Ladies, you don't have to see the lipstick, or smell the perfume. Men don't like to change the soap that they normally use; they don't like to use a different deodorant than the one they have been using since they first got chest hair. Men don't like to use to cologne if they didn't before. So, if your man changes his grooming routine, it's because he's trying to through off the scent of any possible pursuit. No wonder we refer to men as “dogs”!

Brother, can you spare a dime?

Cheating costs money. Suddenly empty pockets with no explanation on where the money went is another clue that can't be ignored. Remember the movie “Brewster's Millions” with Richard Pryor? He had to spend 30 million dollars in a month without anything to show for it in order to inherit 300 million (my knowledge of cheesy "80"s movies is endless). In the movie, Brewster found out that it's harder than it seemed. What's my point? No one can really spend money without some proof on what it was spent on. If your man just got paid and has nothing to sure for it - it's because he can't SHOW you what he spent his money on.

Secret Agent Man

Mysterious late night phone calls. Anonymous emails. Unknown late night business meetings. But your man works at “McDonalds”. "Nuff said.

History repeats itself; repeatedly

I know we should forgive and forget, but if your man was cheating on another woman to be with you in the first place, chances are that he hasn"t changed his old ways. It got him you, didn't it? Some men don't like to leave one relationship until they have a new one in place. They like to trade up only when the wheels have fallen off the old ride.

If you're reading this, it may already be too late…

The best judge of if your man is cheating is you. You can look for signs, but there are some men that are very clever. Like a ninja, they leave no trace. You have to trust your judgment when dealing with anyone, even someone you care about. A relationship between two adults should be based on trust. If you can't trust your man, the relationship is dead; it just hasn't been buried yet. If you are looking for signs, it's because you already know but want some confirmation. Unless, of course, you're the crazy, jealous girlfriend type and no matter what, you think your man is cheating on you. In that case, you need therapy.