Do you love someone but sometimes feel the relationship could use a boost? Take the first step yourself to transform it from dreary to delightful in 10 easy steps! Its all up to you.
When you love someone, let them be who they are; good and bad
Imagine that your role is to see the best in them; to be their source of support. Bring out their best and leave the rest.
Don't speak to them as if you are their parent
Let them make their own mistakes
Don't correct them or say you told them so. No one likes to be corrected. Instead, teach your partner through example….be the kind of person you want them to be, love them the way you want to be loved in return. They'll catch on.
Take very good care of your physical and mental health
You need your strength! Take vitamins, see your doctor regularly and take your health and happiness seriously.
Give space
Don't keep tabs on each other. There is really no place in a relationship for jealousy. If you suffer from anxiety or do not trust, seek help from a licensed therapist.
Envision the life you want
Whether or not your partner sees the same vision; create it anyway. What is it that you want? How do you see yourself with this person in 5, 10, 15 years? What is your dream day? Week? Month? Year? Write it down, read it every day….keep your visions alive inside.
Don't seem needy
No one likes to be around needy people. In your mind, always keep the thought that the door is open; that no one MUST stay in the relationship; they should be there because they want to be there.
Be true to yourself
Live authentically, that is, by what truly makes you joyful. If you do not know what makes you joyful then take some time to figure it out. People are attracted to the energy and glow of authentically genuine people.
Have an outlet
A friend, a hobby, something that brings you joy and does not involve the other person.
Allow yourself to be afraid, but do what makes you scared anyway
No one is fearless! The brave simply take a deep breath and give it a shot. Stand tall, breathe, and you can conquer the world.
I enjoyed your article and agree with you 100%. You have to be your own person and your partner has to be your best friend for it to work. Everyone needs space and their own hobbies, things enjoyed as a couple, and the excitement to see that person when you get home from work. I have read books, talk to relatives who are happily married, and think of ways to keep my marriage going daily. I never take my husband for granted because life is too short and so many women are left alone in their 70's and 80's. I know one day I will be left also. I don't want to look back and regret missed time with him.
