A Secret Unveiled - Marital Cheaters

Some spouses can detect the signs of their cheating mate by the change in their behavior. Some cheaters give themselves away by suddenly becoming more attentive, more sexually active or focusing on details of their appearance. (Those who do not give themselves so easily are the more deceptive, unconscionable types.)

However, the signs of infidelity are not easily visible to others. Since most cheaters are known to be devious liars and outrageous manipulators who are not in the habit of admitting having cheated, or taking responsibility for cheating, the innocent spouse must do some detective work to catch the snake.

I had become suspicious of my (now former) husband, whom I will name (fittingly)Dick, after two years when he suddenly decided to begin regular workouts in the gym. Merely several weeks of the new him, I could not help but feel that he was working out on someone outside of our marriage.

A week later, while sitting in his easy chair, humming the tunes to “Oh, What a Night,” most of the evening, I asked, “Are you cheating on me?” He answered, a little too quickly, “No,” without blinking an eye. He showed no resentment that I had asked. Finally, after a long pause, he added, “Why would I entertain the thought when my wife has the beauty and the brains that I need?” I cringed.

I wanted to believe him. I really did. But I did not believe him, and it hurt.

A close friend suggested I reach out to an investigation bureau to check out Dick and gain peace of mind about the man sleeping next to me at night.

The package deal included a background check and surveillance techniques. My hired detective discovered that my husband was seeing someone at his office, and spent Tuesday and Thursday evenings at her place. After learning that he was seeing the female for over a year, I handed him divorce papers to sign on the spot because my own family values have taught me that infidelity has nothing to do with human behavior or needs not being met at home. It is their own screwed up minds, callousness, selfishness and irresponsibility causing them to cheat.

If you suspect your husband/wife of cheating, clear your suspicions and hire a Private Investigator. (It's worth the cost for peace of mind.) Then, prepare yourself for the truth. Because once you receive the videotape, it is difficult to deny what you have suspected all along.

Five Clues Leading to the Tracks Snakes Leave Behind

1. Diminished or enhanced sexual activity. I discovered that my former husband cheated because he suddenly became very interested in sex, and used me to practice different acts and positions. My mistake was not to question, “Where did you learn to do this or that?”
2. Credit card receipts for hotels, restaurants and clothing.
3. When you confront him (or her) be ready for him (or her) to turn the table around and make you feel as though you have gone mad. Blaming the victim is the number one trick of unfaithful spouses.
4. Making private, coded telephone calls at night or suddenly going out for a long brisk walk on an Autumn evening to make a cell-phone call. Or, receiving mysterious telephones call at night and hang ups.
5. Absences from home and last-minute business trips or dinner meetings, especially a couple of days before the weekend, which is family time.

I have gotten over the shock of the lack of moral responsibility and loyalty among most people in society. Evidently, immoral behavior is the way for many people.

Cheaters do not accept responsibility for their actions and further cause damage to the innocent partner by stringing their lies and secrets without considering the unfairness to the other person. They'd prefer to proceed with the lies and secrets about their whoremonger behavior, because cheaters are perverts with a mental demon they're having a difficult time dealing with, so that they are without a conscious. And anyone without a conscious would never know how to be honest.

Immoral people are the worse kind of betrayer person because they would rather continue to disrespect the marriage as opposed to leaving the marriage and giving the partner the chance to make a life with someone owning the equal moral compass. Obviously, the cheater is not at all at a maturity level to be in a serious, committed relationship. Yet, selfish and unwilling to be kind to the one who promised to honor, love and cherish.

CORNERSTONE

A study reported in The Daily News showed that the figures are even higher each year of married people having extramarital affairs. When wronged women and men pay private eyes to confirm and film a cheater's indiscretions with hidden cameras, you know there is a serious problem. For one bureau, Bambino Associates, their business has increased 50 percent.

THOUGHTS TO PONDER

1. Infidelity may be natural according to studies that show nine out of ten mammals that mate for life are unfaithful.
2. True monogamy actually is rare, according to Stephen T. Emlen, an expert on evolutionary behavior at Cornell University. Also that there are only two monkeys, the marmoset and the tamarin, are truly monogamous. All other primates, including humans, often mate outside their partnership. Researchers generally believe that monogamy originated among species whose young survived best when raised by a bonded pair. This may have led to the rise of monogamy among people, since human children take so long to mature. Faithful sex partnership has been thought for years to be widespread among birds. The eastern bluebird was considered a prime example, with male and female partners working together to build nests, incubate eggs, then feed and raise their young.
3. Patricia Adair Gowarty, a behavioral ecologist at the University of Georgia, has found that 45 percent to 20 percent of chicks cared for by a pair of bluebirds were not fathered by the male. She found that only 10 percent of 180 socially monogamous species are sexually faithful. The research is published in the Journal Science.