In this walk of life, we encounter a whole lot. The good, the bad, and the plain old ugly. We meet great people, who will probably soon become only memories. We go fun places, or sometimes end up having lots of fun in a place that we didn't expect to have that much fun. We get lucky and stumble across great gigs, some that we do for money, some that we do just for the sake of doing it. But what exactly is our purpose for being here? Are we all supposed to conform to what's considered normal? Do we all want a great spouse, two kids, a dog (named Spot, of course), a decent job, and a warm church family that we see weekly? Oh, and let's not forget that dreadful picket fence! Well, I can definitely say that I don't.
Goals and Focus
Right now, I am focusing on what I want to accomplish before I get bogged down, even more so, with life itself. My goal is to be the best writer I can be-I want to do professional writing/communication for work. But I also want to write books on the side, although I know that being a full-time creative writer is not very much security for a gal like me. However, I am a great writer, if this article is reflective or not (I am by no means a journalist). And my thinking is even greater than my writing; writing just makes things a little bit easier. But right now, I am focusing on getting my Master's, in which I have approximately a year remaining. And after that, I'm moving away, off to a bigger city, to do what I want to do and what I love to do: write.
Men
At this point, a man is the least of my worries. Men serve one general purpose for women with purpose. That purpose, my dear, is distraction. I can be off on a great tangent, developing some great scene or storyline, think of the wrong guy with the right amount of influence, and BAM, I'm thrown off track. My best bet is to tend to my guy and hope for better luck next time. Now don't get me wrong, guys are great to have around sometimes. They fill a void in a woman's life, if she acknowledges it or not. But you have to be strong enough as woman to be able to balance this out and stay focused on whatever it is you're trying to accomplish. Don't factor a man in as you make plans for right now, or for the future, just take care of it is it comes. Having goals that are unrelated to men require a great deal of attention themselves, and there is plenty to keep us busy. And remember, unless someone has put a ring on your finger, they probably don't plan to be with you forever. Remember that. But just in case they do, always understand that they will support you as you chase your dreams, as long as you don't totally ignore them. Men don't need that much attention!
Children
I would say stay away from them, but since so many of us have them, that wouldn't be a good thing to say, huh? But if you are fortunate enough to be single with no children, it would probably be a good idea to keep it that way until you accomplish your goals, get settled, and find a great guy. Enough said! Those who already have kids, your child(ren) should give you a more solid reason to stay on track and not be distracted by guys. It's not good to have a small child who has seen more guys come around Mommy than they've gone to the movies. Keep new men to a minimum, and remember that you have someone to set an example, someone whom you want to believe in you.
Be on the lookout for Take Two.
