As a single girl, it's important that we have the right balance to keep our sanity. In Take One, I mentioned goals and focus, men, and children. But there's way more to life than that. It's important that we have our friends and family. We should also have hobbies, or something else that we're passionate about. And we cannot neglect our duties, whatever our jobs may be.
Friends
Every girl should have a circle of friends. I'm lucky enough to have most of my same friends from elementary school. Some of them have children and husbands now, but some of them are single, just like me. Friends help in brining balance in one's life, and we should treasure the relationships we have with people who have proven themselves to be good friends to us. Friends are people we can go out with and have a good time, cry with when we need a shoulder, and just overall talk to about whatever it is that we like to talk about. And a friend doesn't have to be the same sex as we are-one of my best friends is a guy. I can call him and talk about all of, well most of, my girl stuff, and as a straight man, he serves the same purpose as my female friends, just minus some of the drama. So, it's important to have friends whom you love, respect, and treat right. But if you're the type of person who sleeps with friends' guys, you probably will never have this luxury. Friends are, indeed, something to hold sacred and love forever!
Pastimes
Something that I like to do when I'm bored and lonely is read and write. Depending on my mood, I may pull out a good book, or maybe even get on my computer and just start building a terrific, or maybe even a hot scene, with all the details. Those are the ways I like to pass the time, and they are both things that tickle my fancy. All of us should have those things that we love to do. Some of us may like to knit, some of us may have a creative flair and like to make purses, or decorate our house. But whatever your thing is, when you get bored, give it your all and see what you can produce. Having a pastime in which you can make something that you can look back on with a smile is valuable, and you never know what knack of yours can be taken and developed into a day job, maybe. You'll never know until you try.
Job
For most adults, a job is necessary to survive. I've been lucky enough to take a hiatus from work since January, and I'm surviving just fine now, although I am looking. But having a job is something that takes a lot of our time. That's why we should try to be the best at whatever we are in our FT or PT positions. I know that it's not easy to take work home, but as a single woman, taking work home is something you do when you want to get better, or when you want to make life easier. You could probably produce better work outside the constraints of the office. Or if you don't work in an office, let's say you work in a restaurant, while at home, you can think of things that you can do better, or maybe more effective ways you can do something. Then, you can go to work the next day and try it out. We should never try to avoid work just because we leave work, because some of our best ideas don't come to work while we're around a cluster of others, but in our own bedrooms. Give it a try.
And there may be a Take Three. It depends. Let me know if you'd like to see one.
