Perspective
Some boys may want to know what a girl thinks about fast dating, and what she will do when they first meet. Actually, most of the girls are shy to behave actively, and usually they dare not chase the boys that they likes, though I am disgusted about it.
From a female's point of view, speed dating can be very exiting. There are lot of things to expect, including romance and excitement. Also, there are some fears - what if the speed dating is a failure? There are anxieties, too. How should I behave and what should I do? Psychologically, most of the girls will not show their true idea about what kind of young men that they love, and they are shy to pursue their favorite boys. In addition to this, they, somehow, have a sense of pride in character. However, for a girl who wants to take part in speed dating, it is not always the case as I mentioned above. She is more courageous than the other girls in pursuing a young man that she loves.
Any girl is curious about speed dating. Though there are fears inside, she has expectations. Both physically and psychological, she needs this kind of excitement. I don't think that they are not complicated in character as the others say about the girls. There are just contradictions in their mind. They may be very happy, but they may show that they take part in this kind of dating with fear and worries. Ambivalence is not intentional from them. Also, don't think that a girl is testing you, when she takes part in speed date and meet your first. Actually, most likely, she is, in fact, in her own inner-world struggle, because she fears of being hurt if it is a failure, though she may try to test you, sometimes. Therefore, if you are boy on a speed dating with a girl, do not fear that you will cause her resentment. You should be more active. If you are turned down for the first time, and she refuses to talk with you, it is normal. Do not despair, just keep on pursuing her. This is the key for the success of a speed dating, if you are a young man.
Most of the girls who want to take part in speed dating do not want to see the failure of it, and they are eager for a successful speed dating. So, it is good news for the young men, right? It is interesting to know what a boy thinks about speed dating, and what he will behave in this kind of activities. Most of the young men have a strong sense of conquering the others, and they have a great desire to be successful in the speed dating.
A young man usually likes to guess what the girl are thinking, and what she wants him to do, though the guesses are always wrong in most cases. It is hard for him to know exactly what the girl is thinking about. He tries his best to let the girl know that he is a capable person, and he can do almost everything for her. He has his pride, and cannot be hurt. If he is hurt by the girl, it would be a failure of the dating, most likely. If he knows less about girls, he will have to face the failure. If you are a girl, you may know that if he can try twice to show that he loves you after you hurt him, intentionally or not, you will be touched by him. If you are a good kind-hearted girl, you can be very easily moved by him.
However, a young man never knows about it. So, what he thinks is that he should try to show his ability, and try to show that he loves the girl he dates. There are more men than women taking part in speed dating, which has been proved by the surveys done by some online dating web sites. Most of the boys are frustrated if the girls refused to go on dating with them, which is most of the case. Do you know the reason why? It is because that the young men cherish their faces, and when they hear or notice any signal of refusal from the girls, it would make them lose their temper. They would sit beside themselves. Actually, if you are a girl you know that some of this kind of signal is false, and some of them are out of protection, and some are not intentionally, because girls are afraid of being hurt.
Young men have a strong desire to be successful, but they don't know how to do. At least, they don't know how to get the girls that they love. The result is that the girls that they date would quietly lick the wounds from the failure of the speed dating, and the young men would find that their dignity hurt, and they would become ill-tempered at that time. That is the reason why so many speed dating stories are sad.
