We all have dreams, goals, ambitions, but only a small percentage of us seem to achieve them. Why is that? There's no denying that we're all equally worthy of achieving our dreams, so why do so many leave their hopes for the future lying by the wayside? The answer is simple and we're all guilty of doing it: We place the blame for our failures everywhere but where it truly belongs; squarely on our own shoulders.
Now at first glance this seems unduly harsh. After all, there are times when circumstances conspire against all of us, and no matter how hard we try we just can't reach that goal we've been striving so long and so hard toward. This is true. None of us is infallible and sometimes the roadblocks placed in our path toward personal fulfillment are insurmountable. So undoubtedly there are times when we are going to fail and there's nothing we can do about it.
The mistake most of us make is in assuming that it's always someone or something else's fault that we can't have what we want, do what we want, or be the person we want to be. We blame lack of money, shortage of time, family responsibilities, our jobs, etc. In other words, we play the blame game. Well, naturally these matters influence all of us. The key to improving ourselves and our lives lies in the degree to which we allow them to overtake our free will.
No, I'm not suggesting that you behave irresponsibly. Shirk your duties and obligations and simply take off on some wild flight of fancy just because it makes you feel good. What I am saying is that we all need to recognize that at a certain point we have to stop playing the blame game and take responsibility for your lives. Whether happy or sad, joyful or depressed, rich or poor, we all need to acknowledge that we can do better. The key to breaking out of our current circumstances is to escape the emotional rut we've allowed ourselves to fall into.
Yes, we are all guilty of it. The real deterrent to leading a happier more fulfilling life is not fate, but our emotions, or rather our mismanagement of those emotions at the expense of our free will.
Here is a fact all of you must accept right now. In order to reach the quality of life you desire, you must recognize the existence of and the potential of, and make use of your Free Will. You must not be held hostage to negative thoughts such as it's your destiny to fail, or your enemies won't let you succeed. That's playing the blame game again. Losing the attitude that you don't really have control over your life will help you to start rebuilding your life from the bottom up, molding and shaping it into what you want it to be.
Some Points to Help You Begin Rebuilding Your Life Using Free Will
- First, decide what is most important to you. What it is you really and truly want to
have happen now without allowing outside forces, including those who are close
to you to influence you.
- Acknowledge that it's okay to go after this goal with a sense of purpose and
determination, and without guilt. As long as your objective isn't to deliberately
hurt other people, a little healthy selfishness never harmed anyone.
3. Empower yourself by arming yourself with the knowledge that you are not at the
mercy of fate. You can change your life. You can make the desired result
happen.
- Don't become discouraged and simply give up because things don't happen as
quickly as you want them to. Realize that a new life won't happen all at once. It
must be created step-by-step through ups and downs. You need to use your free
will, or willpower if you prefer, to make the changes you want come about.
- Believe in yourself. Know that you are capable of deciding what is right for you
and who you want to be in the future. Trust your inner core of beliefs and values
to guide you down the right road to a productive and happy life.
None of this is easy to do and it won't be accomplished overnight, but it is certainly worth making the effort. You deserve to be happy, and ceasing to play the blame game and accepting responsibility for that happiness through exercising your free will is central to building the life you want.
