There are a lot of my friends out there who are very much frightened of this particular big "M" word. Now, it really takes a lot of commitment to reach this stage of combining 2 souls, what more to maintain it in the long run. There are lots of couples ending up getting married but I doubt that they are familiar to one another just yet.
The most basic things that I always read in magazines, books and stuff like that would be the 3 key factors to a successful marriage, which would be communication, understanding and financially stable. But then, personally to me, I would say that most basic core of it all would not be these 3, but rather the cold hard fact of "adaptability". Yes that is so, and though I am not married yet, I do feel a lot for this word, and think that one day when I end up getting married to the "right person", she would have to come to terms with this adaptability. Yes, most definitely.
We really need to adapt to one another as a couple, and for the sanity of the marriage in the long run, this needs to be stressed out way before you guys get hitched. Fair enough, right? Think about this. If a happy marriage means having lots of money in the world, then why the heck are celebrities getting divorced like hotcakes in the oven? Yes, the numbers are rising. SO, why can't money solve this issue? Simple. That is because to be real in marriage, you need to be adapting to one another. It is really true, and I am not sprouting nonsense.
Now, coming to this adaptability part, it is really a lot coming from a couple intending to reach the marriage stage. First, you guys have to adapt to each other's family background and family culture, so to speak. Next off, there is the sudden change of everything from relocating and moving and stuff like that. The timing of your jobs and the people linked to it. Picture this. You are married to your partner, but suddenly everything seems like new and you feel like the person you are married to is totally on a new level with you. These stresses, if not communicated well might end both of you in a rut.
So take my advice; my analysis of marriage and think things through. If for the long run, you are not able to adapt to one another, then your marriage spells trouble. If it could survive any light of the day at all, then welcome to the club of marital bliss. As for me, it seems to be a still long road ahead, for I still need to find that special someone before I could rant and rave about adaptability to her.
