It had never occurred to me that I could turn into a mate snatcher. During my younger years I did not find a problem in dating other people's boyfriends because the rule was guys and ladies are there to be shared. We always felt alright.
I got into a relationship and discovered the guy was hooked up one month down the line. I left him albeit reluctantly. My friends told me that I should have carried right on because he probably loved me better than he loved his own girlfriend. I did not find the advice appropriate at the time but later on I didn't seem to mind going out with a guy I knew had a girl.
If you do not find it a problem to date someone you suspect has a girlfriend or boyfriend, you will not find it hard to date someone's husband or wife either.
Most of us steal our platonic friends from their mates. It all starts as a simple, close friendship and later we cross boundaries and interfere with other people's romantic lives.
I will give my own example. One time I was going through a terrible crisis because my parents were at the brink of a divorce and I was caught right at the center. I found it hard to bear and one time I exchanged with my dad. I got so depressed and begun making phone calls. I could not get most of friends but I managed to get one guy on line. We did not talk immediately because he was a bit busy but he called me later in the week.
We went to a public park and talked about the issue.
It was late in the evening and as the night drew in, he asked me to go with him to his apartment so we would finish our conversion. I did not find any problem with that because after all he was a close friend.
He convinced me to spend the night with him and I accepted despite the fact that I knew he had a girlfriend who was meant to come over that night since it was her birthday. The guy simply ignored her calls and later switched off his phone. He felt he needed to be there for his friend and completely forgot his girlfriend was meant to be dearer to his heart.
When do you know whether you are capable of stealing someone's mate? Here are some suggestions. If you think or do any of the below mentioned, you better be careful because you could just be turning on the red lights instead of green lights in your short life.
- What do you prioritize in any romantic relationship? Do you find out about the person you are interested in? Like if they have someone or not?
Take your time to know about the other person. If they are in a relationship tell yourself, they are not meant for you and move onto the next. You have a wide range of choices and if you don't open your eyes, a great opportunity will pass you by. You will be busy collecting stones when diamonds are passing you by. - What problems do you share with your platonic friends?
You should avoid at all costs telling your platonic friends the problems you face in your romantic relationships. Your friend tends to think they can treat better than your mate because they have been with you longer and understand you better. They will leave their mate for you and you will have denied someone their happiness. - When do you see your platonic friends?
Friends should be visited and called during the day. We are human and prone to temptations. Keep yourself away from temptations by drawing the boundaries in your friendships. Visit each other during the day and if it is at night make sure you are in public places and not secluded places or apartments. Do not give your friend a chance top start seeing you in a different light unless of course yours is not just friendship but you intend to turn it romantic. - How do you react when you discover the person you are seeing was already in a relationship?
If thoughts like;” there is no harm and I did not know someone else was in the picture” or ”it is not fair to have just one mate when there are lots of cute people out there” ever cross your mind, you should know you are a mate snatcher.
I do not know how you view polygamy but if you don't support it then you will understand what I mean when I say you stay away from people's mates.
