If you feel you are always doing the wrong thing when it comes to dating, you certainly aren't alone. How many times have you walked past a couple in the street, or sat near them in a restaurant and sensed there was some kind of atmosphere going on? Or maybe seen a man and woman actually having a public argument about their relationship?
Conflict
She is shaking her head because he's got it wrong…again…and he's just desperate to know what exactly he has to DO to make her happy about the situation. It really is a mystery to him what she wants.
The more he tries to work it out, the more she gets frustrated by having to explain something she reckons he should just instinctively KNOW. No matter how understanding he tries to be, it's not enough to persuade her to carry on dating.
After all, he's tried being the man she says is her ideal, and listened carefully to what she says she wants from a relationship.
Trouble is, that's exactly the problem that caused this whole confusing blow up in the first place.
Trying Too Hard
Because no matter how often a woman tells a man what she wants from a relationship, he is going to get it wrong, plain and simple. This isn't because women are the naturally fickle creatures men always suspected they were, but because women generally can't stand guys who try to be something they aren't.
It works the other way round, too. Men aren't setting out to be phobic about relationships - few men end up being bachelors all their lives - like women they are searching for the genuine article.
If you spend all your time trying to please, you're going to get it wrong more times than you get it right. If you concentrate more on being yourself and act less like a people pleaser, you're going to find a whole new scenario develops.
Your date will start wanting to spend more time with you, asking for your opinion rather than dismissing it, and being ten times more interested in keeping you around than if you squash your true personality in order to be something you THINK they want.
