We've all lived it- that dreaded morning after feeling waking up to someone you barely knew on the opposite side of the bed and looking at the evidence of last night's activity spread out through the room. For women the agony lies within having to wake up next to a man she barely knew or even remembered his name after having too much to drink. Hooking up with someone the first time drunk is NEVER a good idea if you're looking for a serious, long-term relationship. If someone can remember the sexual position you were in, but not remember your name, and that's not good if you're hoping for more. Some men do love a good chase of what they can't have, but if they can talk a girl out of her panties after a few martinis she's clearly way too easy. There's also the risk and chances of catching an STD from unprotected sex or getting pregnant.
Alcohol impairs judgment and most people who had too much to drink are not aware of the fact that they don't know the history of the person they had sex with since not everyone is honest about their history of whether they're contagious with an STD or was recently treated for one. Alcohol also lowers your inhibitions making you vulnerable to things you may end up regretting later on. Rarely, anything serious really comes out of a one-night stand when alcohol is involved because what respectable person thinks they can get to know you by sexual means? The problem is that sex in today's day and age is treated like a handshake and doesn't mean anything. It's enough that men and women view and react to sex differently. Women tend to be more emotional and psychologically connected whereas men are more physical and psychologically connected. For what it really means getting drunk and having a one-night stand does not improve your chances of a serious relationship. If the person you had a one-night stand with only contacts you for sex then you clearly see that the person could careless unless you're giving them some. Any respectable man or woman will not allow themselves to be regulated to booty call status and that a real relationship is much more than just sex, it's about connecting to someone on the mental level and getting to know what makes someone who they are since you can only take the physical things so far before it becomes repetitive.
Women have to understand that sex shouldn't be used to keep someone around or to hold on to a relationship and men can't use sex to control someone either and that relationships take time to grow and develop and that individuals have interests and hobbies that are worth exploring. A sexual encounter doesn't always guarantee a true and real relationship, the way to a real deal is to get to know someone outside the bedroom and let sex be something you do with someone you care about and who you intend to be with on a long term basis.
The 4 kinds of men to stay clear of dating:
The Mama's Boy-This guy probably lives near or with his mother. She will have helped him pick out everything from what he wears to what he eats and you'll find out by how clean his house is when mom comes over to clean up and does his laundry.
Why you should steer clear: You'll never live up to mom's expectations and even though he will love and value you always he will take his mother's side every time.
Steps to get rid of him: Tell him that three's a crowd and that mom is getting in the way.
The Bodybuilder "aka" Gym Rat-This guy will have excessive photos of himself on every available space including sites like Facebook and MySpace, his own home gym and even resorting to snapping a good percentage of his pics in the bathroom in front of a mirror or in a room of him flexing his muscles (even though he's a perpetual member of the trendy gym in town). He's equipped with the latest gadgets and home entertainment system. His idols are Arnold Schwartzenegger and Jon Cena from the WWE.
Why you should steer clear: He's always at the gym and will spend more time in the bathroom than you. Plus he always has no time to date, but will “show up” to something with a girlfriend or spends 4-5 hours at the gym 5 days a week. If he lives for admiring himself like Vanity Smurf then you know you need run and don't look back because most women don't spend that much time in the bathroom admiring themselves.
