This is the million dollar question!
Can you change a man into what you want him to be or think he should be?
Can you change his habits?
Many women have an over developed maternal instinct. They think they can save anyone and help them improve themselves.
They are actually think they are a magnet for men who are dysfunctional in some way because they think they can save them from whatever is happening to them.
However this is NOT true.
If you are one of those women who have been involved with men with hard life issues and wonder why do you attract men like this into your life, the answer is: you don't. It's YOU who gravitates towards men with grave issues.
You need to understand that no one can change a person who doesn't want to change.
These cases are more clearly with men that are alcoholics, abusers, or drug addicts.
We think we can save them. Show them the light and if they only knew what we could show them, they would change.
Well…if this is the way you think, you are wrong.
You are in for a big life disappointment and you should have a change of mind.
No one changes unless they want to change. This is something you can't convince anyone to do.
It's a different story when a person wants to change and asks for your help. In this case is very proper of you to help and be there for him while he endures in such a hard journey.
This also applies to women who think that once they marry a guy, they will be able to change the horrible habit of… (Fill in the blank).
You need to know that you are no one's savior. If you don't like someone's conduct or habit, all you can do is tell them how it bothers you and examine yourself to understand if this is something you can live with or not.
But most importantly understand that you will not change him. He needs to want to change.
