Cheating: From a Man's Perspective 2

I've heard the various excuses as to why men cheat from men are weak to it is something wrong in the relationship. To be honest with you, cheating is a learned behavior. When someone cheats, in most cases, it is carefully calculated. There are very rare cases where it is a spontaneous act.

Every action first begins in the mind. Before anything can come to fruition, there is a thought process the goes into play. A man must convince himself that he can do it and can get away with it. Depending on who is cheating with, what kind of time restraints will he have to deal with? You know some women don't mind that he is married, or in a relationship. As a matter of fact, some even prefer it.

First, there has to be an interest, because no one can cheat by themselves. A man in a relationship doesn't have the time to put into a courtship, especially if he and his mate live together. Some flirting has to take place, and based on the reaction from the flirting, then he knows whether to proceed.

Secondly, the phone numbers are exchanged, and then you engage in conversation to see if this can be pulled off, and how willing of a participant that you have. These phone calls normally take place before, during, or after work. In the case that it's a co-worker, they have access to each other at least 5 days a week. Now you do have some instances where you have a woman who not into all that, and just wants to get it and quit it, but those are rare. Anytime that a man or woman get to the point that they cheat 8 out of 10 times, it has been carefully planned out.

Once everything has been established, then the man will at most times start changing his normal routine at home. He starts hanging out with old friends more often than normal. You used to couldn't get him away from you, but now he's consumed with the boy's night out. That's why I don't buy the reason that there is something wrong in the relationship. You can have the perfect woman and everything is going great, and a man will still cheat if it's in his mind to do so. This is coming from a man that has been there.

I once heard a profound saying, that in every relationship the most you can get is 80%, and the 20% always looks greener. It's in our nature to try to get what we can't have. No matter how beautiful your mate is, there is someone who looks better, but just because it looks, smells, walks, and seems better, doesn't mean it's the best thing for you.

Don't buy into the excuse it just happened or I was just weak. Even in the moment of spontaneity, you still have time to think before you take any article of clothing off.